Anyone else had a m/c?

Question

No heartbeat at 12 week visit. Had to have D&C as my body thought the fetus was still healthy. Had been trying for a year and we were so excited. Probably the most difficult time in our lives. We are trying again.

Answer 1

I'm very sorry to hear of your miscarriage, it is a truly heartbreaking experience.

I had an experience very similar to yours. I went for my 12 week ultrasound, and found that the baby had stopped growing very early on in my pregnancy. There was no heartbeat. I also had to have a D&C, although the first one did not remove all of the products of conception. I ended up in hospital, and was very ill, until I waited for my next D&C, which thankfully made me feel a lot better physically than I had been.

I was advised to wait one full cycle before trying to conceive again, and my doctor told me that conceiving again may also be easier this time, because the lining of my uterus would be thin and fresh, making the implantation easier for the fetus. Sure enough, I got pregnant again the first month trying. I am now 20 weeks pregnant, and I feel very blessed to have been given another chance. I really you are blessed in the same way.

I learnt to come to terms with my miscarriage, and cope with it in a number of ways. Firstly, I looked at my pregnancy, and realised that I would rather have had my baby with me for even that short amount of time, because of all the joy that it bought me, than not have had it at all. I now try to look back and remember the good times. I also have realised that if I can't have my baby, then there is no better place for he or she to be than with God. With God, I'm sure my baby is in good hands.

I hope I have been able to help you.

I'm going to include the link to a miscarriage/trying to conceive/pregnancy forum that I think you might find useful. It's full of supportive and caring women, who have gone through many of the same trials as we have.

Answer 2

I had a miscarriage 2 months ago. I was 8 weeks along. We weren't trying to concieve, but now that I've gone through all the emotions, getting attached to the idea of having a baby, how aware you feel about everything that's going on in your body, even all the morning sickness and exhaustion, It's really something that I want. Good luck.

Answer 3

Yes, I have as well. One miscarriage, two missed miscarriages (like you) and two tubal pregnancies. Of course, I am not able to conceive naturally again after the two tubals - they had to remove the tubes. Hang in there though! These things happen because typically there is something wrong with the baby. If you are concerned, your doctor can order some fertility testing (for you and your DH) to check for any other possible problems that may have caused the miscarriage.

Answer 4

I have, it was just about the hardest thing I've ever survived. I was only about 10 weeks along, but we had been trying to concieve for over a year, and losing a baby after finally getting pregnant was heartbreaking. We're trying again now, after a few months "off". Hoping for good news soon.

Answer 5

Yes, most of us who have been pregnant have at one time had a miscarriage. Sometimes you're only aware of it as a heavy flow one month or other spotting. Sometimes, when it's late in the pregnancy it is much, much worse.

It's not unusual and it is natures way to help us make the best babies we can. Regardless, counseling has always help me.

Answer 6

I had 3 miscarriages before having my son and am now 17 weeks along with my 2nd.

Answer 7

I did. I lost my daughter at 22 weeks. It was heartbreaking. I had to deliver her as if it were a "normal" birth

Answer 8

Please tell us what a m/c is. Oh sorry I know what it is now....sorry!