My first anniversary is coming up, and my husband does not satisfy me. I have never used a vibrator, and I think it would be a great anniversary gift since he is gone so much and can't satisfy me anyway. Should I tell him or not?
2006-07-12 10:00:06 · 37 answers · asked by Forget-n-forgive forget it!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO! That is not something you ask your husband for on your first anniversary. Go and get one yourself.
If he doesn't satisfy you anymore, then maybe that is something the two of you need to sit down and talk about. Suggest trying new things in your Love life. DO NOT tell him he doesn't satisfy you cause that will only make the sitution worse.........
Here are some things you and your husband could try to spice up the Love Life:
Try this website for ideas: http://www.sexualpositionsfree.com/
Good luck to you, Remember don't destroy your husbands ego. :) It might damage the rest of your marriage. :)
2006-07-12 10:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ouch!!! tough subject. Where is your husband and why is he gone so much? Why does your husband not satisfy you like he should is there a problem with him or with you. And did you know this prior to marrying him? with these on the table it would be so much easier to answer this question for you. I would talk with him at first and discuss the fact that he is not satisfying you. Do you still love your husband. If you in fact do not then you should ask him for a divorce and move on to someone or yourself that you can get yourdself satisfied. If it is erectile dysfunction then maybe he can wear something when with you or inquire about a prescription. If it is just you then you should think about either counseling or asking for a divorce. No since of you both being miserable if you do not have to be.
2006-07-12 10:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about talking to your husband about it beforehand. And here's a couple of suggestions in the meantime.
1. Tell him in a very polite way that he's just not satisfying you sexually...stress this SEXUALLY.
2. Open the lines of communication in the bedroom, tell him what to touch, when to touch, where to touch, and how to touch. He doesn't have a user manual for your body. Unless you tell him how to please you, he won't ever know.
3. Be patient with him while excersicing #2 above. If he's a premature ejaculator or something like that it may take him some time to develop the necessary skills to do it for you every time.
4. Make it clear to him that his inability to please you now doesn't mean that he can't please you ever and explain that you masturbating with a toy is lots better than him finding out about an affair.
Hope things go well for you.
2006-07-12 10:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...if he does not satisfy you already 1 year into the relationship and you need a vibrator to help so soon.....I mean maybe I can understand that after a few years but so sooooon??...I think for your 1st anniversary you should ask him for a divorce
2006-07-12 10:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by nuance92551 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is one of those touchy subjects for all partners involved, it is one of those things people do not really talk about. However, you need to talk to your partner about how you think it might be interesting, and who knows maybe very stimulating for both of you, since men are usually visualizers, he might like the idea. But I would not just go out and by one for an anniversary gift, maybe if you talk about it first, you do not want to hurt his ego too.. Talk and then shop together, see what interests him as well... It could be fun...
2006-07-12 10:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure- why not? look at is this way--- if you dont find a way for your husband to take care of your needs, sooner or later, you'll find someone who does.
you have to be able to talk openly to him about things, tho. assure him you love him and want him, but that you just need a little more than what he's been doing. vibrators can be fun, and you can use them on each other. (not necessarily inserting it on him, but rub it against him-- he'll love it)
and once you bring one into your relationship, you can be open to try different types. you can also get different oils, lotions, lubes.
be open with each other-- be imaginative-- you can have alot of fun with each other!
2006-07-12 10:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by tonysdoll815 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys generally dont like to get involved with vibrators. My last lover was intimidated by it and it made him want to satisfy me even more. (works for me) Get your own vibrator and surprise your hubby with it during a session.
2006-07-12 10:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him he can't satisfy you and you'd like to replace him with a vibrator. Maybe you could tell him you'd like one to spice up the play in the bedroom a little bit.
2006-07-12 10:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just go and get one. A lot of sex shops are clean and friendly. They can help you find something that will work for you. Then once you find something that works, let your hubby come with you. Maybe you don't satisfy him either. Then you can both get something that will spice things up.
2006-07-12 10:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by court 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would really really hurt his feelings if you do such a thing. I bet you haven't even had a talk with him telling him that you feel unsatisfied. Don't assume that he knows what you like, show him. You need to try to work with him. show him what you like. teach him what you want and if all else fails you can buy the vibrator on your own he doesn't even need to know about it.
2006-07-12 10:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋