please onle adults over 27?

Question

me and my now "ex" have been break up to make up for the past two years. I know that he's not seeing anyone else and neither am i , but i feel like it may be time to go because i don't feel like he listen's to me, I don't know if i'm over reacting but I don't feel like i'm put on that pedistule that every one in a relationship should. I respect and honor him to the fullest and i try to be as good to him as i can, but he tells me that I'm annoying him. I really don't know what my question really is, i just need help...I know that if we could communicate and compromise better than we would be great but i just feel like he's a spoiled brat that really doesn't care about anyone but him self. yet and still i love him..we were best friends befor we got together and now i'm just hurting because i don't want to lose him, but I hate the fact that I'm crying more than laughing with him

Answer 1

The good news is you still shed tears. When you reach the point where you can't cry any more then you know it is over for sure. Unfortunately I think your close to that point. A man who is in love would never tell his woman that she is annoying. I think you have taken this relationship as far as it can go because he is never going to make you number one and that is what you need and what you deserve. Personally I think it is his loss because he probably won't find anyone to treat him as well as you do.

Answer 2

Well, I'm 25, but I'm far more mature than the >27 guy whom you're explaining.

First off, tell him that you love him. If you don that already, tell him again. Ask him, what annoys him. Ask him how the two of you could fix things. If he's not willing to talk, then it may not be worth your time trying to patch up a relationship with someone whom obviously doesn't give a $#!+ about how you feel. When my wife and I have an altercation, I try to work it out instantly, or before bedtime. It took a while to get to that point, but I was willing to communicate. And it sounds like he doesn't want to even lift a finger to do it.

I'm just being honest. You can find someone that will treat you better.

Answer 3

ok, so sounds like your in a bind, on 1 hand you need to respect your self, and make sure that your treated right, and on the other hand, he's your best friend, and you love him with all your heart.

Ok. I have the same exact relationship:
I had a bestest friend, and we became closer, But I made sure this time to wait for him to Love me,just as much if not more than me......so that I know that when I spoil him, I get it right back, how I want it, and if he doesnt give me what I want, I teach him. Its not easy, but if You 2 are really BOTH inlove, then he will WANT to TRY to make it work............Your gonna have to ask him, what he really wants. Oh yeah I am 33 and so is my man, if you guys are younger then that, renmember Guys are hella immature, so dont expect too much froma youngin.........................Hope it works
God Bless

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel. But in time you slowing stop crying and start realize that he's not good for you no matter how much you want to deny it. I still do the same thing. IT ALL TAKES TIME AND TIME SUCKS! My ex was selfish and still is and likes to blame me for everything we had wrong in the relationship. You need to stop doing this off and on thing or you will never be able to get over him. You already know he's wrong for you now you need to slowly move foward.

Answer 5

There are many ways to respect and honor your ex. You can still be nice and freindly to him , but not allow him to control how you feel.-- I was in an on again off again relationship and in the end it was a relief that I was able to let go and find balance. Life is about balance--- Focus on yourself and he will realize what he lost-- If he doesnt it was time to move on anyway.

Answer 6

.Pedistule? Well im not sure how to help you but maybe if i tell you about me it might help.Depending on what you think being put on a pedistule is,to me its my hubby being faithful and giving me all that he has,love friendship so on.Im not saying buying me gifts and dining and wining,just treating me diffrent then he would show his friends or family.When i met my hubby my world seemed perfect but life is things do change,things slow down due to stress,work,kids and so on.So i try not to ask him to act the way he did when we met.Cause i know also that that cant be done.I have even changed,not that i wanted to but like i said stress,work,kids and so on .When people first meet things are so perfect cause at that time in life nothing matters cause love rules the air you breath and nothing and noone can get in the way.Sounds like you havent changed the way you are and he has.Now if he started calling you names and hiting on you and stoped making love,then i would just let him go, but if he just isnt like he was when you first met and if you try to be blind to the world and start having those long talks about how he use to be and so on ,this will just stear him away cause he wont feel he will never be good enough.If you want to work things out,try going back to being friends like you use to,if you really want it to work forget about the little things and dont bring them up.Injoy his friendship and when you feel he is getting closer just injoy it and dont say now if you could just always be like this it would make me happy.Cause like i said theres going to be days where he just cant live up to it,same with you.Good luck and hoped this help alittle

Answer 7

why would you keep torturing yourself by hoping he could change and loves you back as much as before ?
if he feels annoyed by you then he has no feelings left for you (you could ask him a direct question like do you still love me at all ?). you need to move on and see some nice friends and have a good/fun time, so you dont have to think about him.

Answer 8

honey...I think you've answered your own question. If you are crying more than laughing and your gut is telling you to move on...then I think you should move on. You will find that guy who will put you on that pedestal that we all deserve.

Good Luck girl..I know it'll be hard letting go of the idea of what once was.

Answer 9

Well, you know it's good you want to work things out, but it takes two. And if he doesn't have his heart in it, you two won't come out successful.
It sounds like he's content with the way things have been going. If you aren't, then you have to decide what you want, and follow through with it.

Answer 10

"he's a spoiled brat that really doesn't care about anyone but him self" <<<