i want to get pregnant w/o my fiancay's mother knowing I'm trying but how can i get her out of my hair????????

Question

his mother just set an appointment with a docter at planparenthood for birth control but i want to get pregnant with my fiancay and so i resceduled the apointment so that i can try to get pregnant before september or that i can already be pregnant by september. he knows that i want his baby and he doesnt care cause he wants me to be his baby's mother and we've been together since i was14 and i'm 18 but he's 20 and we're both living with his mom and we're going to move out as soon as he finishes his last year in collage.but his mother is so worried cause i'm young and she says it wouldn't really be a big thing because shes in her late 50's and she's an aproprate age but saposably he and i aren't ready she says.... and i've always wanted his baby since i was 15 but was to scared to try cause i was young and now i'm a good age plus i dont want to have a kid to late like in my mid 20's cause i want to be a young mom... please answer me before july 27th, 2006. THANK YOU i apreshiate it.

Answer 1

How will you pay for this baby? How will you be able to do anything with your life. Education is cool and is worth money.

Answer 2

Personally, I think even at 18 you're way too young to have a child, regardless of how long both of you have been together and regardless if you both want to have this baby.

You are only 18 and there must be other things you could focus on aside from having a child. Let's suppose you are mature enough to handle a baby and all the responsibilities that come with it, even so, there are other things you should accomplish and do before you bring a child into this world.

Listen to your soon to be mother-in-law. She's looking out for her son's best interest as well as your own.

Answer 3

Honestly, if my son engaged, I'd expect him to own his own home or be renting an apartment somewhere. If he has another year or two in school, that means a baby in the house with the grandparents. This isn't fair to ask them to support the two of you and your child just because you're impatient about having your own family. If the man isn't responsible enough to work full time and live outside of his parents house, he has no business starting a family. Period! I know this sounds harsh, but it's an unfair burdon to put on the future inlaws. Second, you may as well wait until you're married. Honestly, I wouldn't even let you live with my son unless you were married or he was out of the house. Also, I wouldn't be taking you for birth control. I'm not against it for married couples, but abstinence is best for singles. And, here's an idea...Since you're so grown up, why don't you work full time so you won't have to live with mother in law? Then, she won't be able to make any decisions for you! But then, you'll have already made your own decision after struggling to make ends meet.

Answer 4

Let me see if I understand this: You aren't married. You are living with your someday mother-in-law. Your boyfriend is barely out of high school and still has two years left before the end of college. Neither of you has enough education to support yourselves other than on welfare or minimum wage. WHY IN THE WORLD DO YOU WANT TO PUNISH ANOTHER HUMAN BEING BY BRINGING IT INTO THE WORLD??? Listen to your boyfriend's mother. Get the birth control pills. And make him wear a condom just in case. You are way too young to make such a stupid mistake. I know. I was there too. 18 and pregnant - not a good combination for anything. When he dumps you, and he will, you will be considered "damaged goods" and no one will be terribly interested in you and ultimately you'll just settle for someone who will take you and the kid.

Go to school. Get a life. See something of the world before you have children - married or not.

Answer 5

Well...

You're living with his mother. People don't move in with Mom to reproduce. If you're living at home with Mom, you're not ready for motherhood. You're not even taking care of yourself yet. You're 18. Get a job and GET OUT!

Get married first. Get an education first. Your spelling is atrocious. You should be in school, not trying to dodge your future mother-in-law to try to get pregnant before she can put you on birth control. Since when is it her decision anyway? THIS is why she says you aren't ready. You're not ready, and I don't care how much you think a baby will make your life more complete, you'll live to regret this decision. A baby deserves more than what you have to offer right now.

Answer 6

First of all, I want to know Since when, did your relationship between your fiance and you include your mother in law? That relationship is between you and your fiance, not between the three of you. Your 18, He is 20, last time I checked thats old enough to make your own decisions. If you two want to have a baby, thats cool, and you dont need your mother in law ( or soon to be mother in law's ) permission.
Now, lets play devils advocate. Your living with his mother. That means its her house that you both live in. Using the electric, Drinking and using the water, as well as the normal wear and tear on the house. How would it be if you did get pregnant, and still living with her. What happens then. Will you stay there through out the time when the baby is supposed to be due. Remember, down payments for a house or apartment include first and last months rent. Plus in some areas you have to have a payment to get some of the utilities on, and that doesnt even include food for just the both of you. Add a baby, you have a diapers expense, you have formula expense, as well as making sure the baby is clothed, and babies grow out of clothes quicker than anything. That also doesnt include the hospital and doctors bill that being pregnant, and having a baby insues. Just think...roughtly, and lets go cheap, 70$ to150$ per doc visit during pregnancy. Thats at least once a month. Multiply that by 9 months you get between 630.00 to 1,800.00$. Thennn. you add the two doc visits in the eigth month and the four in the ninth month thats another additional 420.00 to 900.00$. For a grand total of between1,050.00$ to 2,700.00$ What happens if you have to go into the doctors because of differant things that happen during pregnancy. Lets include the prenatal vitamines. Those cost too. Then theres the fact of labor and delivery. What happens if something happens with the baby, and it has to stay in the hospital ( God Forbid )???...Of course we mustant forget about the bassinette, the crib, the dressor, the changing table, and any other baby furniture. Bottles and nipples as well. They all cost. Thats just getting to the point of having this child.
Now, if your still in Mamma's house when you have her grandchild, her whole life is uprooted by a baby that she wasnt expecting in her life. Its one thing to have a baby on your own, living with your significant other, but a baby uproots alot of things. To an older woman that is set in her ways its hard to change that.
Now, lets include those special times when just you and he want to go out for dinner. Now you have child care to take care of. If he doesnt have a job, Where are you going to get the money to have the baby, much less go out? I dont know many people at the age of 18 and 20 that can financially afford to have the baby with out going on welfare. Do you really want to have your baby on that? Its good that the welfare place does help people, but if you can avoid having to do that, wouldnt you be much happeir?
My advice is to wait just a little bit longer. Trust Me the wait would far be more worth it. Not to mention you and he will be able to enjoy that baby alot better with out the stressers of Mom in the back ground giving the advice that you know shed start in on.

Answer 7

Jesus Christ! Get an education or at least use spell check before you think about bringing another person into this world.

What is wrong with people telling her to have a child if SHE wants. She isn't even on her own! She should have her tubes tied until she goes to school and gets a decent education. A baby born to her now, will be a burden on the system.

Answer 8

Ooh I'm goin thru the same thing. I just found out that I was pregnant about 4 weeks ago and we didnt tell his mother but someone else did. She is about to flip out because I am a different race and she wants him with his ex-girlfriend. If a baby is what u and him want the dont worry about what she says. Trust me, she cant live your life or make you go to the doctor. Good Luck

Answer 9

advise from unknown friend. Don't do it now.
"Good" age of 18 is good to have fun, travel, enjoy the life, be wild for some time.
Later in life you won't have that chance - especially once you have kids.
First live a life.

18 may sound a lot but that is only beginning of "good time". Even at age of 25 (26, 27 etc) you won't be "old" mom but for sure you would be more beautiful in some special way.
You just have to wait to see

Answer 10

So, let me get this straight ... you are whining just because your fiance's mother doesn't want you to possibly strap HER or her son down with a child that YOU can't possibly afford to take care of, since you are living off of her ... quit being such a spoiled little girl, think about others and what a crappy life you will bring an innocent child into right now ... PLEASE!!! Forget about having a baby and get yourself back to school ... your grammar is awful and getting an education is far more important than playing mommy!!!

Answer 11

Well what i think you should do is to just wait until you and him are ready to move out of her house so that's she cant tell you guys what 2 do n e more. Seeing that the two of you are living with her you should respect her wishes to a certain extent, now I'm not saying that you should let her "run" your lives but you should respect what she ask of you. Good luck with every thing!