just found out i am pregnant!!?

Question

I just found out i am pregnant and i dont want to tell my boyfriend b/c then he would want me to get abortion and i really want to keep this baby and i know that my boyfriend would get mad and same with his mom too.can anybody help with subject? and i need to know how many weeks you have to be not to get abortion and to tell my boyfreind?

Answer 1

Sweetie...even if you tell him now...he cannot MAKE you get an abortion....if you want to have this baby (which is wonderful, even if you are young) just tell him...over the phone. There is nothing that he can do about it. What you need is your family to help you.It sounds like his family wont be there for you....so surround yourself with yours.....good luck!!

Answer 2

You can get an abortion up through your last trimester. They are called "partial birth abortions," and are conducted by sucking the baby's brains out and then collapsing the skull. The baby is then removed in pieces. You don't want to do that to your child.

I could chastize you for being with someone who would want you to go have a procedure that could potentially ruin your ability to have children later, but I won't go into that. I have a feeling that others on here will give you your due in that department.

Here's the thing: there is a little person growing inside of you. You have a choice. It's YOUR body. Not his. This is your decision, and no one else can make it for you. If he leaves, let him. You don't need him anyway if he chooses to abandon his own child. You will have to live with an abortion for the rest of your life. You may never be able to have children again after having an abortion. Is this something you really want to risk?

Answer 3

If you want this baby YOU can't be forced to abort. Get a spine tell him and his family to go p*ss off. Relize a single mom is not the best 4 the kid. You are in control not him it's not his choice anyway. Abortions are safest and cheapest before 12 weeks. However then can be done late into the 20 week mark or so with RISK and more cost involved and you may have to travel to so few clinic do them that late it can be done "sadly". If you don't want to abort DON'T it's pretty simple. He may grouch yell threatren your a mom now stand up 4 your child. You may have to parent alone it's going to be your choice only you know what you should do. GOOD LUCK. I'm 28 and the father 34 he was not happy i told him this kid was coming with or without him. He is still around.

Answer 4

Nobody can force you to have an abortion. If you feel like you can't tell him, then maybe something is wrong with your relationship.
This happen to me. I got pregnant and I though that the baby's daddy wanted me to have an abortion. I told him right away. I was excited. In some way I was testing him because if he told me to get one I was going to tell him okay and walk away and never talk to him again. Still I always planned on keeping the baby, I knew I wanted this happen so I had to take the next step defining our relationship.
After 3 months you can not have an abortion. You should not wait that long. To hell what others opinion are of your pregnancy. This is a little piece of you, nobody can't take this from you.
Congratulations!!

Answer 5

Every state is different but I think after 3 months you can't get an abortion. So I would say if you are farther than 12 weeks along you can't get an abortion. Are you sure you want to have a child with a man who doesn't want a child? Have you asked yourself why he doesn't want a child? Just remember it is your body and only you can make the decision. Do not let anyone influence you. Good luck.

Answer 6

KEEP IT! baby are so precious please do not abort this poor child. If you cant wait to tell your boyfriend and he says something about abortion I would tell him " I already looked into it and I am to far along" and tell him that your going to love that baby and have it wether he likes it or not! I had a miscarriage in March and It broke my heart I couldnt imagine having an abortion. Just think that is your child that you would be Killing. Its your body your baby do what you want. And if your b/f dont support you then he isnt a good b/f!!!

Answer 7

If you care so much about this baby make damn sure you are making the right choice by keeping it. Is your child going to be taken care of properly by both parents? Are you able to support this child on your own? You will be taking away the fathers right to choose by not telling him and making the choice for him. Are you going to need welfare to take care of this child, because the father won't pay his share? Your choice should be based on what the will be best for the child, not what seems fun or cute to you now. If you are completely sure you can do this on your own and this is really what you want and it will make you happy. I say go for it. But please weigh all your options before making a choice.I have 5 adopted brothers and sisters because people thought that it would be fun to have a baby. The children are always the ones who suffer. Good luck, i didn't want to sound harsh, just be careful.

Answer 8

look, i had the same problem. DOnt get an abortion whatever you do. And if you wanna keep the baby tell him. Just let him know that this is your baby too and you want to keep it and tell him that if he doesn't tough because this baby is now first in your life and not him anymore cuz your child always comes first. And also let him know that he was part of it, you didnt just wake up pregnant. IF he still wants you to get an abortion tell him no cuz after all it is not the babys fault it did not ask to be made yet he wants to kill it for his mistake........Not cool. This baby is a part of you and if you want it you have every right to keep it. If you wanna be a mom you need to toughen up and stick up for your baby......even if it is still in your belly, you are its only voice and its counting on you. And if you want to keep the baby that bad you wont be afraid to say this to him. and as for his mom there is nothing she can really do about it so just kid of ignore her till the baby is born if she has nothing good to say about it. And you can get an abortion anytime but after three months they inject fluid into the brains of the baby to liquify them suck them out, crush the skull and then suck the baby out in peices. Would you really wanna do that to a helpless baby......didnt think so. They will encourage adoption but thats hard, my aunt had to give her baby up and 3 years later with 2 more kids stillregrets it and cries all the time. But yeah .......i know what u r going through and its hard but remember you are doing it for the baby.I kept my baby, her father left me and has nothing to do with her since but i found a greater love than any guy could ever give and see it ever time i look at her. And now i found a guy that loves us both and wants us in his life. So dont worry it will all work out in the end.who knows after it sinks in he might even get excited himself. CONGRATS & GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

If you are going to have a baby, you need to grow up. It is your decision to make...not his and certainly not his mothers. But you may be taking on the responsibility by yourself. If you are counting on his help by tricking him into believing you did not know until it was too late for an abortion, you are starting adulthood on the definite wrong foot. Get some counseling and then tell him what your decision is if you can't trust him to be a man and take on his responsibilities. You will be entitled to child support from him no matter what he and his mother think. Good luck.

Answer 10

u can have an abortion up to 20 weeks but it really depends on where u go. Four weeks ago I found out that I was pregnant and my boyfriend knows but his mother is having a fit. She doesnt like me and mentioned an abortion but only u can make that decison. No one can make u have an abortion... GOOD LUCK

Answer 11

Well i'll tell u this i dont wanna sound mean but if u're boyfriend didnt want no baby he shoudn't have layed down wit u. and thinkng about gettin an abortion?? DONT DO IT BECAUSE THAT IS SO WRONG.!! And go on google and look at some pics on how an abortion looks and i guaratee u that u wouldn't want it because it looks so nasty and wrong. If u dont wanna keep the baby give it up 4 adoption.HOLLA!!