forever jeolous???

Question

i cant get over the fact that my fiance has partied and been with other girls in his past.obviously this is jeoulosy...but how do i get over it!

Answer 1

You grow up, become mature and learn to be an adult. This should happen at about age 23-26. If it doesn't, I would look into it.

Answer 2

I know the feeling I have the same problem with my boyfriend. He did many things when he was younger and I get really hurt by it. I know everyone says "the past is the past" but it still hurts. I tell myself that maybe I should be a little more wild to show him that I am like his party days so that he will stay with me. But you know what. I have to be myself I have to stay true to my beliefs and values. If your boyfriend loves you and you trust him and you both have a good time when you go out then leave it at that. You have three options: 1) deal with it 2) seek a counselor 3) leave him so that you will not feel like this anymore.

Answer 3

It takes time for those wounds to heal so in due time it will go away as far as the jealousy for I know I couldn't stand seeing my daugther's father with another female and I still find today even though we have been seperated for 3 years or more it still bothers me just a little bit but it is not something I can't brush off in a matter of minutes. So give your self some time and in the mean time don't do anything crazy for they are not worth it and it is their loss not yours.

Answer 4

As long as he is not with other girls now, what is the problem? We all have pastt and unless he told you he was a virgin before you two got together then you are being jealous over something you already knew.
It sounds more like insecurity than it does jealousy... worrying about whether the other girls were better or whatever.

Answer 5

It's hard to get over someone's past, especially if it's more experienced/more to deal with than your own. The best thing is to accept it, not try to forget about it. Just accept what happened and let it go. Don't think about it. It's in the past and that's that. If he proposed he's obviously done with that part of his life. If you keep trying to forget about it you'll just think about it more. I've been there, accepting it is the best thing I think you can do. And just look into the future.

Answer 6

Are you a virgin? Everyone has a past, the only way for you to get over it is to grow up. The past should have no bearing on the future.

Answer 7

You may not get over it, but you look past it and move on. It's not something you can change so just accept it and work on what you have. It's a waste of energy focusing on a past you can do nothing about. what's done is done. i'm sure you've had your fair share of fun and boys. don't dwell.

Answer 8

grow up... thats the best way... we have all had lives before our current relationships.... witch means sex and other people... thats plain normal! and to be honest you should be happy of that fact, because a man cant just have one woman for his entire life... if he did he would always resent you for being the only one... men need to know that variety is not that exciting..lol... good luck and dont drive him away with this jealous thing ..because it will! believe me.... im 33 and my bf is 19 and should he be jealous because i have two kids and was married? and how could he be mad im 33....lol..see what i mean?!

Answer 9

Just remember everyone is entitled to their own past. If you can't reconcile your feelings now then do the guy a favor and don't get married.

Answer 10

Stop worrying so much about the small things. If you are in love then it shouldn't matter what your past is if he treats you well and doesn't sleep with anyone else!