This question has been boggling me for some time now. My boyfriend is coming to diner with my family on thursday night. I was kind of hesitant at first because we're REAL southern and he's from way up north. But then i thought that since i like him so much they will have to. I talked with him about it and he said that he cant wait! But upon asking when i will meet his parents he just quickley changes the subject and refuses to talk with me about it. I've talked with his mom and she likes me but he says he doesn't feel comfertable bringing girls home to meet his dad. Is he afraid he won't like me?
2006-07-12 09:28:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anaree22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sure that this has nothing to do with you, hun. Your boyfriend obviously cares about you, and I'm sure he isn't afraid his dad won't like you. It sounds to me like your boyfriend is embaressed of his father. Maybe his dad is a drunk, or a pervert, or has some sort of mental illness. Maybe his dad is really overweight or unhealthy, or just plain outrageous and annoying. Perhaps his dad is mean and judgemental, and your boyfriend is scared he will say something hurtful to you. It could be anything, but I'm almost sure that's what's going on. He has some sort of shame about his father and he is afraid you will think less of him if you meet his dad, or just that you will be uncomfortable. You really need to open up the lines of communication with your boyfriend and find out WHY he doesn't feel comfortable bringing girls home to his dad, and then if it is something silly, try to reassure him that you love him no matter how random or weird his dad is. If it is something extreme, like his dad is perverted or violent, then maybe its better you just not meet his father. If your boyfriend loves you he should be honest with you and know that you won't judge him based on his family. Just approach it in a caring and compassionate way and he will probably open up to you eventually. Good luck!
2006-07-12 09:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by neverneverland 4 · 8⤊ 1⤋
you need to be particularly particular on your boyfriend for him to be bringing you to satisfy his mum and dad all a thanks to eire. i'm positive he has given you an concept as what they're like. I guess after the first initial assembly, you'll start up to experience better. Be your self. perchance you could let them understand you're somewhat fearful and that i'm positive they're going to do each and everything to make you experience at living house. Did you ever communicate to them on the phone? now and again you will get a feeling purely from chatting. I desire you lots of success. Have a astounding time!
2016-12-01 03:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know how his relationship is with his dad? I had a boyfriend for a year and a half who NEVER wanted to take me home but after like six or so months I finally was like WHAT THE HELL IS THE DEAL!!! Well, it's cause he was really embarrassed of his father and the way his father lived his life. Don't necessarily think it's cause he is not into you... Gently ask him if there is a reason... You'll know soon enough whether it's you or not
2006-07-12 09:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men up north only bring home girls that they are seriously dating, unlike southeners where is not a big deal.
Don't judge peole upon your own values and understand that just because you did it, he is not abligated to do it too. That is inmauture and selfish of your part. Whenever he is ready, he will let you know, but you cannot force your way into somebody else's house!!! How rude of you, you might scare him away with your demands for seriousness and might have the opposite effect.
Give him sometime, bringing you home will be at his timing, not yours...
2006-07-12 09:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's afraid you won't like HIM. Maybe his dad is an embarrasment.
I dated a guy for years, and he never let me meet his parents because he hated his parents.
And you really need to ask your boyfriend this question and find out why he's uncomfortable with you meeting his parents. Maybe it might indicate a level of commitment that he's not ready to make.
2006-07-12 09:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK DARL! Nah i dont think he thinks his family wont like you! maybe he has issue's with his dad! because you have spoken to his mum...if you hadn't spoken to his mum then maybe i would think his family wouldnt like you! Well i have been with my fiance for 2 yrs 3 months and i havent meet his mother or father! EVER! is mother was in the phillipines...she remarried and we can not find her which has been sad for him and his father is travelling around australia, but i have been told that i will not ever meet his dad that he is an @$$hole! i have only meet 3 of his relatives.....he has meet my hole family mum dad aunts uncles family friends the whole deal and yer sometimes you do get curious as to what they would be like and what resemblence ur partner has to thier parents but in the long run does it really matter....Are you in LOVE with you boyfriend or his family?
2006-07-12 09:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys dont bring just anyone home, and when they fond someone worthy it takes them a while.....
another possibiliy is that there is something about his dad he might not be comfortable with .....
whatever the reason, try to ask him why he doesnt want you to meet him? kinda guilt trip him into telling you by saying things like "well what am i not good enough? are u ashamed of me? do i do something?" dont nag him about it....but at least try again, and if he still wont talk about it, drop it for a while
2006-07-12 09:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is protecting u or maybe he and his dad don't get along and doesn't want you to see the ugliness. i understand my family is southern hospitality and my fiances is not. complete opposite in fact. there could be lots of reasons why don't get to upset he maybe doing a good thing for you. guys especially don't want you to see them hurting and maybe thats what his dad will do. get to know the situation first then decide how you should feel
2006-07-12 09:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his dad tried to get with one of his southern girlfriends before j/k maybe his dad is a real big yankee
2006-07-12 09:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his dad is harsh or maybe he feels it's not the right time. Next time, bring it up and keep the conversation up. Don't let him brush it off.
2006-07-12 09:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋