what would you do?

Question

my wife always thinks im cheating, but i never have. she wont trust me? i've tried to get her trust back, but its not the same. what should i do...

Answer 1

Let me know when you find out! lol
Time and right actions are the only hope. But, no one is perfect and the smallest missteps can dive the relationship back to worse than it was. It is up to her to decide to just let it go and trust you. The benefits of that are peace within and peace in the home. Letting go is not easy though.

Answer 2

Sounds like she is the one with the problem. If you are innocent then you have nothing to prove. And you might want to ask the question why does she not trust you? She may be, or she may just be insecure.

You need to sit down and talk to her. Tell her that you have never cheated and you want to know why she don't trust you. Don't point fingers just talk. Get both of yours feelings out there on the line.

If this does not work then you may want to see about getting counseling.

Love + Communication + Trust = A Good Marriage.

Answer 3

Be accountable for what you say and do. Trust is never automatic. It has to be earned. Have you done anything in the past or recently to hinder her trusting you? Has she caught you in lies or have you betrayed her in some way? If so, you are going to have to make amends for it. You are going to have to show her that she can trust you. You must be committed to being the man I'm sure she wants you to be. It is not up to her to trust, it is up to you to show you can be trusted.

It could be that she wants to trust you but you give her reasons not to. I suspect if she couldn't trust you at all she would have already left you. Chances are there are a number of areas where you have let her down and those are the areas where you have lost her trust.

Now, if you have done absolutely nothing to betray her trust in you, then there may be issues in her past that need to be resolved. Either way, you need couples counseling to sort through these things. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Why she is not trusting you? You said "I have tried to get her trust back" does that mean that you did actually cheat in the past? If that is the case then you have no right to complain. If you haven't, then sit down and talk to her and ask her why she feels such way.

Answer 5

What do you mean by "I've tried to get her trust back?" Sounds like something happened for her to not trust you.

Answer 6

talk to her. Find out why she can't trust you. Maybe she's been badly hurt in the past. If necessary, get couples counseling. If you're out without her a lot, take her with you some times; introduce her to your friends, and let her see that you're not hiding anything from her. It takes time and trust must be earned.

Answer 7

What have you done to have to gain her trust back in the first place? Never make your woman feel insecure. Maybe it's your actions around the opposite sex. Maybe your unaccounted for when you should be home. Could be any of these things that's making her feel this way. Only you would know what your doing or what you've done to make her feel that way.

Answer 8

Do things that show her you can be trusted. Show her your cell phone bills, have your internet monitored. I know you shouldn't have to go through all of that, but if she doesn't trust you, what else can you do

Answer 9

Dude, once trust is an issue, it will always be an issue. End the relationship.

Answer 10

/why does she think you cheating, and why do u have to get her trust back.