ok i my best guy friend likes me. and i dont rele like him right now. so i told him we could be"friends with benefits" he was ok with it. ok yall got that. well me him and this other girl sarah are all best friends. well she feels that its not going to work out with her and him and she thinks that she cant be his friend n e more and that we all wont be equal friends. wat can i tell her??
2006-07-12 09:13:59 · 36 answers · asked by kole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok...i told him that i didnt like him...its hard bc we all 3 are best friends and she thinks that hes only gunna care more about me than her. wat should she do.
2006-07-12 09:36:00 · update #1
im not gunna friggen sleep with tha f-u-k-i-n-g dude
2006-07-12 09:39:49 · update #2
This is why you shouldn't mess around with your friends.
2006-07-12 09:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to be selfish. Fair/Equal...who ever said it had to be that way. Life isn't fair and it never will be. If she wants to be unhappy then keep making things difficult otherwise tell her to get over it. If she can't work out her friendship with the guy for whatever reason then she needs to realize what she's asking the other two of you to do. She and you then must make time on the side where you two can hang out and spend time together. As for your little guy friend...you shouldn't feel obligated to be "friends with benefits" if that's what you wanna do...then cool but if not tell him NO, SORRY life isn't always the way you want it to be and he needs to accept that. Respect yourself and don't do anything you don't want to really do plain and simple. Don't sweat the small stuff...people come and go in your life, if you can't take it or it's too much then stop and think...hey maybe these people aren't my "FRIENDS" cuz friends shouldn't make you feel this way.
2006-07-12 09:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by jammer4207 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your situation, regardless of whether or not you're all friends. Unless you think he likes you too much to be able to handle it. The "friends with benefits" package deal usually only works when both people feel EXACTLY the same. Even then problems may arise. Just go with your feelings cautiously and try to keep things fair.
2006-07-12 09:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh? you were f'ing your best friend's boyfriend who is also your best friend? Friends are more important than a good lay from anyone, especially if you aren't that interested in him. If that is not the case, you should just leave well enough alone. It is so hard to maintain friendships when sex gets in the way. Keep your friendships and your sex life seperate!
2006-07-12 09:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by scorpilo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Perty,
You cannot be equal friends, as you are having a physical relationship with him when she is not. In other words, you do have a different relationship with him.
The question is, was she hoping to date this guy or go out with him, and she feels that she is unable to do that because you are now FWB with him?
-j.
2006-07-12 09:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by classical123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you can tell her but if she falls away from you friendship wise and you want to pick up a new friend you sound like the kind of friend I'd be up for.
2006-07-12 09:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by jljdc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits is a sure way to mess things up
2006-07-12 09:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by nfaustman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore it; both you and that guy have commitments already. till you want drama, do not act on it. Liking somebody else even as you're in a courting is okaaay (relies upon on the fellow), yet performing on that's extremely undesirable.
2016-11-01 22:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think its ur friends decision 2 make u can always ask her what she thinks n give ur opinion. But i don't think the friends with benifits thing works out someone is bound 2 get hurt but u can take ur chances it might b different for u
2006-07-12 09:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by Rannet P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can be equal friends. Everyones relationships are different. I would say that she needs to lighten up, and a real friend would give their opinion on a subject and that is it, not try to take away someones friend becuz they don't like how you handle your relationships. Yikes
2006-07-12 09:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by Haymas1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits means casual sex and you don't like him??? Get real with each other. Don't sleep around- especially with a friends guy! Find someone who is special to you and don't share. Don't cheapen yourself that way.
2006-07-12 09:19:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋