i am thirty eight weeks pregnant and to be quite frank, traumatic amounts of stress have freckled my entire pregnancy. there have been close deaths in my family, an accident leaving my brother paralized, my husband abandoning me without a word almost four months ago, losing my job, being homeless...
it has been a horrible pregnancy, and things are only getting worse.
i am afraid for this baby, for the things he is having to endure whilst trapped in my stomach. now that i have an apartment and some stability i really feel in my own heart that it would be best that the baby be removed from the chaos. having a live person i can handle, i am just not caring for myself or him right now as we're a joint unit.
i want to approach my doctor about inducing labor.
has anyone had any experiance or words of advice? at this point the baby is fully developed and if things were less complicated i would never hurry mother nature...but i feel this is the best thing i can do at this point
2006-07-12 08:50:48 · 15 answers · asked by brandylyn_kay 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
PS- i am a mother already of a beautiful two year old, i have experianced newborns and have no problems.
i think the mental angst i'm going through is affecting his health, i am not eating and can't seem to force myself to do so.
if there were ways to reduce my stress like relaxing i have tried, i think most people in my situation would be certifiable by now.
i'm thinking- once baby is out there is a real live person there who needs me, he is being severely neglected whilst attatched to me and being an individual would force me to look after him.
2006-07-12 09:00:20 · update #1
I think actually it is much easier to take care of them on the inside. give it the natural time before birth. trust me it's easier inside than outside, for the baby and for you. Try to rest and get things ready for the baby. Get your life together. I don't think being induced is a good idea. It certainly won't reduce stress.
2006-07-12 08:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm very sorry your life has gotton so nuts on you. Personally it's a TON easier to be pregnant and stressed then PARENT and be stressed. A screaming baby waking you every few hours will do nothing but, BAD for your mental health. AT TOPS you only have 2 more weeks doctors won't let a pregnancy go much over a due date. I understand the mental strain your having but, inside safe is better then outside and part of the choas 4 the baby. Great job getting a apartment and getting your life in order b4 he'she arrives! You should be proud of how far you've come under stressful situations. A newborn bring about great joy but also great strain and nutty-ness. You will have to deal with baby shots diapers feedings doc apoitments soon enough none of which will benifit your mental health. If you ask the doctor they will have you talk to a social services and may get nosy about your life. You may want to see a counsler anyway just o help. Being a single strugling mom of two is too much to handle alone get some support.
2006-07-12 09:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 38 weeks you're SO almost there! It could happen on it's own naturally any day now. Unless you're doing drugs or drinking, each day he can spend in utero buys him less and less time in the NICU. Don't let his fragile health add to the inhuman amounts of stress you're already under.
If there are any physical reasons like bleeding, blood pressure problems, etc., your doc will whisk you into the operating room and take your baby almost before you know what's happening. But unless the physical stress of carrying him is affecting your ability to carry him, I don't think a doc is going to induce or schedule a c-section just because you're stressed out. You think you're stressed now ... just wait until your little one arrives. You can kiss sleep, sex and fun goodbye for the next year or so. That stresses even the strongest of relationships and family configurations.
Hang in there. It's only two weeks. You can do two weeks, no problem. Go to bed and sleep through them if you can. Get some rest. You're going to need it. If you get to 40 weeks and there's no sign of impending labor (baby drops, mucus plug released, you launch into a cleaning frenzy), your doc would probably feel more comfortable inducing. One way or another, you'll be holding your little man in your arms two weeks from today. Give him the gift of the best start he can get.
Good Luck! :)
ps: Post a comment to this question once you've delivered and let us know how things turned out! :)
2006-07-12 09:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can understand that you are under alot of pressure right now and the hormones probably do not help the feelings of helplessness. Is this your first child? Do you understand that once this baby comes into your world that it will be very stressful on you to take care of it? I would not suggest this be requested as long as everything is ok and you are both in good health. If you do not have high blood pressure or anything like that I would just try to ride out the remainder of the pregnancy, 2 weeks or so is not that long to wait and the more you stress the worse it is on you and the baby. Let the baby come into the world in it's own time and don't rush things unless it is medically necessary, I feel any other reason would be selfish. I hope this helps and take care
2006-07-12 08:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jakesmama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, if you go to your doctor with that request, he will call family services, or children's aid(depending on where you live) and have the baby removed from you at birth, but will not deliver early. Your best bet is to keep quiet, try to relax, and think about how much you need the stability of being a good mother in your life. The life you are describing is not one you should bring a baby into. You only have a few more weeks to wait. Think about your son, and how important it is for him to develop to full term considering the stress you have already put him through.
2006-07-12 08:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not, let your baby grow, sheltered from all the chaos. A real life baby will add to the stress you already deal with! Enjoy the final stages as a mother & the peace and freedom youhave at this point in your own appartment and all. A baby wiill turn your whole world upside down all over again. So relax and gather your last strenght before this baby comes into your life. You seem lonely and maybe you feel that a baby will fill that void....
2006-07-12 08:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by $D*Da*Spoild*1$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you are going through such a tough time but to be honest, the best thing you can do for the baby is to let him be born when he is ready. You don't have much further to go and every day that he spends in your body the stronger and healthier he will be. Do speak to your doctor however, he most likely wouldn't consider inducing until you are over a week overdue but he could help with your emotional angst.
2006-07-12 08:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to be in absolute control.
Take a deep breath and enjoy what quiet time you have left.
If you don't calm down before the baby is borne, some one might think you are unfit to care for a child right now, and then where would you be?
And no matter what you think about where the child is right now, he most definitely is not trapped! He is right where he is supposed to be until God sees fit for him to see the light of day.
2006-07-12 09:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by beagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't The best thing is for you to wait for mother nature.
If you are wanting someone to hold and to talk to, care for. You are doing that. You can talk to your baby where he is at just as good as you could if he were already here. You can hold your own stomach which will comfort you and your baby.
Try to learn meditation if will help both you and your baby.
This website might help you
http://elevated.freeyellow.com/page5.html
2006-07-12 08:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and if you think that baby getting here early will improve the stressfulness of the situation, your are mistaken. You are just eager like all new mothers are. Take these last two weeks and relax.
2006-07-12 08:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by Olive Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋