My stepson is 7 and he doesn't live with my husband & I. He comes over on the weekends. How do we tell him that I am pregnant? We don't want him to feel like he is being replaced. Any ideas on how we can keep him involved and not left out?
2006-07-12 08:43:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I would take him out for a treat, like ice cream after dinner and I would tell him. He is old enough top understand.
To make him not feel left out I would take him to some of the Doctors visits when you won't be getting a full exam, and let him listen to the heartbeat. Let him help get the babies room ready, let him help pick out names. In general, let him be as much involved as you can but still take time alone with him. Make sure you do things while he is with you without talking about the baby.
2006-07-12 08:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a down to earth with him and just come out and tell him I think that would be best. Just make sure he knows how important he is to you and your husband. Let him know what an important job it is being a big brother and that he can teach the baby many things. Seven year olds are pretty smart and know a lot more than we even know they do. When the baby comes make sure to include your stepson in care and feeding of your newborn. It will make him feel like he is an important part of the baby's life.
2006-07-12 15:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by mardaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is always best. If you try to spin some sappy line on him, he will not trust you. Just explain that when people get married they often have children together and now he is going to have a little brother or sister to mentor to, teach things to, protect....Ask him to help you decide how to decorate the baby's room and find possible names. Stepson or not, every child gets a little jealous when a baby sibling comes along. As long as you don't change your rourtines with him and not start skipping the weekends with him (because your sick or whatever), then he will be fine and probably excited.
2006-07-12 15:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your stepson know that there is a new brother and sister on the way. If he says "I don't want a brother/sister" ask him why and go from there. Talk to him about his worries. Ways to include him throughout the pregnancy is to let him talk to the baby in the tummy, let him feel the tummy and allow him to go to the doctor's appointments with you so he can hear and see the baby too. Approach this just like you would as if he were living with you all the time.
2006-07-12 15:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by deltazeta_mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some books (my friend had a great one called "I'm going to be a big sister" for her oldest daughter)
Get some books like that to help you talk through the reality and honesty of the situation, and to point out the pros and cons in little kid language. He is old enough to understand, and you need to be OPEN MINDED with him, he will have a lot of questions and you need to give him real answers. Don't give him any ideas about being replaced or not important, just reassure him that you love him and that this is going to be exciting for him...
2006-07-12 15:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 7 he should be able to comprehend a new baby. Just tell him. Honestly, your fears are out of proportion. You aren't dealing with a 2 year old coming out of separation anxiety. Don't over do it. I am sure he will be happy to have a new sibling. When the baby comes he'll be more than happy to help out.
2006-07-12 15:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by LANXTONE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should ask him if he would like to ahve a borther or a sister and if he dosen't mind or anything then just tell him that he is gonna havea brother or sister ! bc he is gonna find out when u have the baby ... or u can just tell him that ur gonna have a baby and no matter what he will never be replaced !! good luck and congratulations !!!!
2006-07-12 15:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kali Gavette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 7 he should be old enough to understand. Telling him straight out should be okay. tell him that he is going to be a big brother soon and that you are going to need his help and when his little brother or sister gets older he can teach him or her new things like sports he likes or games.
2006-07-12 15:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight up with him and tell him right away. You can make him involved by bringing him to the doctor with you when you get ultrasounds, shopping for baby clothes and furniture. Maybe even have him help choose baby names. Congratulations!
2006-07-12 16:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by geewhizbaby2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that when I told my 4yr old that he was going to be a big brother he was siked. Our situation is different but if you encourage your step son that he will be a role model to your baby he might find it exciting. To have someone who will look up to him and that he can help with when he is home with you.
2006-07-12 15:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋