Is this normal amount of sex for a couple?

Question

Once every three to four weeks.

It's slowly killing my drive.
Be honest.

Answer 1

Normal is what's right for you and your partner. If you both agree that once every 3-4 weeks is what you want, then that's fine. But if one of you is unsatisfied, then it's a problem you need to talk about.

Answer 2

Your relationship is still very new, I would think the drive should still be there for both. Do one or both of you work long hours? Are there any kids in the picture? How much of an outside social life do you both have and does it interfere with your time with him? Do you initiate it? Do you communicate effectively with each other? I have been married for 10 years, have two kids and a very busy, sometimes hectic life but I make it a point to not let more than a week go by without having sex...and I make my husband a priority over my circle of friends (sometimes guys can feel less important when it comes to girlfriends)...sit down with him and reassess both of your priorities, if you both put each other at the top it shouldn't be hard to find time...

Answer 3

sounds like there might be some issues, but it may not be anything to do with your relationship, it could be a medical reason that keeps his sex drive down, or maybe a schedule that is too busy. Don't jump to conclusions. Talk to him and be sensitive and kind, it may be something he is having a hard time with, like an undiagnosed medical condition, he may not understand it himself. If he can't explain it and doesn't understand it himself, then a check-up is a great idea. Remember to be kind and open-minded if you really want answers. Good luck. Oh BTW for the person who said less than once a month if you are 40, well I am 41 and I enjoy sex several times a week. LOL. That might be true for people in their 70's

Answer 4

The frequency will change with your age. At the beginning, you will find feeling it more than once everyday. Gradually, it will change.
May be after few years, 3-4 times per week will suffice. Then, after more 3-4 years, once per week will be enough.
When one becomes little older, like around 40, for them once per month may be all right.

Again, dont forget, its not same for everyone. If you are below 30 years of age, then your one is too less. You better talk to your partner.

Answer 5

There is no such thing as normal. Normalacy is based on the individual couple. So, if you want it more frequently, talk to your mate and see if you guys can reach some sort of middle ground. Just remember, everyone goes through periods where their sex drive wanes. Usually, this passes but if it does not, you guys might want to see a doctor to make sure that everything is ok and that your hormones aren't out of whack.

Answer 6

I just read a news article that said that 1 out of every 10 marriages is defined as "sexless" meaning they have sex 10 times a year or less. So I guess there are lots of other people in your situation or worse!

Answer 7

There is no real definition of "normal" when it comes to the amount of sex a couple has. I know for me if it's not atleast 3-4 times a week...I start bouncing off the wall.

Answer 8

I have sex with my boyfriend (not married, dating for 2 years) 1 or 2 times a week.

Don't know what is normal, just giving it as a reference. Don't worry, if both of you are ok with that, there's no problem.

Answer 9

Normal is what you make of it and text books say bla bla bla. What ever most satisfies you is what you should consider normal. If you are not being sexually satisfied then talk to your partner and let him know how you are feeling. Remember commutation and sex are the 2 key elements in every relationship.

Answer 10

No
You should speak to your partner and find out if there is something wrong. Maybe they have had bad experiences or they do not feel good about themselves. Work on those things that stop them from giving of themselves and your sex life will get better.