Not looking to judge just curious to see what leads someone to stray in their marriage.
2006-07-12 08:30:15 · 11 answers · asked by M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please well thought out answers. Not something like "a bad spouse, duh".
2006-07-12 08:38:06 · update #1
I lost interest physically for my husband, the spice and fun was gone. I needed to make sure it wasnt my fault physically. after I
strayed I realized that after 10 years of marriage the excitement was gone, no spontinuity, or diire existed. for me straying was physical rather then mental. I still love my husband but....not in love, He is very attractive, but the chemistry wasnt there anymore.
2006-07-12 09:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things .... but it all comes down to not having enough integrity to honor the commitment no matter what.
Here are excuses I have heard:
-- s/he was unfaithful, so I was too
-- the sex wasn't good enough with spouse
-- s/he was gone too much
-- life wasn't exciting enough
-- I married young and didn't get to experience freedom enough
-- temptation was more than i could handle
-- i didn't think s/he could find out
-- i am not satisfied in my marriage
None of which are a good reason, only excuses and rationalization ...
If the marriage is really bad and worth giving up on, then divorce, don't cheat.
2006-07-12 15:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strayed emotionally in mine because the love was not there for my wife anymore...at times I couldn't stand to be around here...I never strayed to go have sex with somebody it was all emotional...we are now getting a divorce....and yes I got caught...and that is when everything came to a head...and now she realizes looking back over the years that I really didn't love her....
2006-07-12 15:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by jeff402006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change. They either get closer or grow apart. In my case, the other person turned to drugs and other women. I could have stayed and tried to get him help, but I chose to leave because I wasn't all that happy, either. It just wasn't worth it. Some people are not meant to get married. It gets boring sometimes.
2006-07-12 15:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any woman dying to go to bed with me and give me great quickies during lunch I'm attracted to. I see no harm when I don't get any at home. And I bet a lot of people will agree.
2006-07-12 16:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by I'm all yours 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its not feeling wanted ...feeling alone..wanting to have some attention..not getting any love from your spouse
2006-07-12 19:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by chat girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of sex. Having the opportunity that you didn't have with someone before being married.
2006-07-12 15:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i havent strayed but now dam it he has got to come off it more often then he does.
2006-07-12 15:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because of the drugs and lies and not wanted to live with me.
2006-07-12 16:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by Boomerang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never stayed,and never will, but, people who stary do so because "they want to" you are "taken" because you want to be took.
2006-07-12 16:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by Zeni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋