i work with a lady who is always depressed and dumps on me. how do i cut her off??

Answer 1

I would just say NICELY, that "tomorrow is HAPPY DAY! We will only speak of happy things then. I don't mean to sound cruel, but sometimes I leave here all bummed out because of the things we talk about, and by golly! I want a HAPPY DAY!"

Answer 2

I had a similar situation. Only with a guy, I finally told him in the nicest way that I was concerned about him. I gave him a great big smile and told him all the wonderful qualities he had as a person. He looked very happy, that is when I told him that he needed to take some time off from work so that he could relax and do some wonderful things for himself. I told him that he may be suffering from burn-out. He took my advice and seems much happier. Sometimes folks are not aware of what they are doing.

Answer 3

Start dumping back. Tell her your troubles of dealing with a person that is always depressed and dumps on you. And if she doesn't get it, every time she starts dumping on you, start thinking of new ways to heave depression back her way. It could become a creative daily excersize.

Depresso: I'm really sad today. The world is just so ugly and I don't really feel as if I can connect with anyone. I'm not satisfied with my job and I don't like working here. I think I should...

You: I also know this chick who is totally depressed and hates her job. She tells me about it all the time and its driving me crazy. Actually, she's one of my friends that I know outside of work and I'm thinking about telling her something. What should I say? Every day she keeps on pestering me with her life, but she doesn't take into consideration the feelings of others. In fact, I think she just wants people to feel sorry for her. I mean, is it fair to me to have to deal with someone like that? What would you do if you knew someone that just dumped all their emotional baggage on you all day long?

She'll probably get the message. Don't hide in an emotional bunker. Fight back!

Answer 4

well first, you DON'T want to cut her off. most people that are depressed end up in a really bad situation, like committing suicide, or murdering someone to cope with their anger. so why don't you help this lady? i think that you should e-mail, call, or actually TALK to her in person, and find out whats going on, and how you can help her get a little control of her life back. ask her if she would like a therapist' phone number, or maybe a psychiatrist's or a counselor's. if this woman is seriously depressed, she needs help, immediately. don't wait or hesitate, for if something DOES happen to her, your going to feel VERY guilty.

Answer 5

Do your job, but do not go out of your way to enable her behavior as it will only bring you down as well.

You have to set a boundary, if she comes to you and continues to dump on you and you simply don't want to hear it anymore, tell her so in a professional manner.

If your company provides employee counseling, maybe you could suggest to Human Resources that they bring this up with her.

Depression is a ***** and most people don't realize they are depressed and bringing others down...I know, I've been there.

Answer 6

You are not going to change a person's personality. Especially if it is a negative one. Your only hope is talking to your supervisor and move away from this woman. It has to effect your job performance and your super should be made aware of that.

If you don't remedy this, you are going to get a bad attitude toward her and your job. You don't want that to happen. Most supers understand these situations and can help you out without the woman even being aware of it.

Answer 7

Those people need a good mental enema. Offer to pull the trigger or push them if they can decide when it is time to end all for them. It helps if you act really impatient but deadly serious. It's called re prioritizing therapy. The reaction should tell you whether or not to suggest a stay "The Giggling Academy"

Answer 8

Tell her that people choose to be happy. Everyday, every moment she has the choice to be happy or otherwise. Everyone has problems and it is difficult to be happy all the time, but one must try to live their life the best they can and be positive about it. Sometimes it helps for people to let others know, but if it is all the time, then it's not just the situation, the person themself has some problems they need to resolve. Maybe try to tell her this? Please don't be rude to her though. God bless.

Answer 9

Dont be rude but in a nice way tell that person Im here to work and I dont think this is appropriate behaivor for a place of buisness.

Answer 10

It's your own fault. You shouldn't have married her in the first place.

Ooops. just seen you're actually female. Sorry, I'm no good with lesbian relationships. The last lesbian relationship I had only lasted a couple of weeks. I knew I should never have gotten undressed with the lights on.