okay my friend Jane is in love with her boyfrind after dating for 6 months they had sex. She is not on any from of birth control. Now she dosn't wan't to have sex with him anymore because she's still in school and does not want to become pregnant at a young age. She dosen't want to tell her b/f because he thinks sex is a big part of a healthy relationship and she does't want to hurt him or lose him. I told her to get on the pill but she says with her luck she would still get pregnant. What should she do?
2006-07-12 08:28:43 · 14 answers · asked by blackrose 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She Is not going to talk to her mom about this and dont suggest birth control the question is how can she get her boyfriend to understand
2006-07-12 09:39:31 · update #1
Get her to talk to her boyfriend about it. If the guy loves her, then he won't force her to have sex especially at a young age and if he doesn't love her then she shouldn't have sex with him anyways. Also if she isn't 18 she can't consent to having sex yet and shouldn't be having it. Just get her to talk to him. Even while using birth control and even condoms she can still get pregnant or get an STD which could be worse. It's not worth it to have sex at such a young age.
2006-07-12 08:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by pianomangsl77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not a whole lot that you can do. You can not make your friend have sex with her b/f. If her b/f doesn't understand the reason why she doesn't want to have sex anymore then he is no good for her anyway. I think your friend is smart. Even if she takes the pill she can get pregnant. I think she needs to sit down and talk to him. Ask him what he would think if he found out if she were pregnant today. Being pregnant at a young age is no joke. I think you should tell your friend that she is being smart and to dump her so called b/f if he doesn't like it.
2006-07-12 15:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by ♥eLizAbEtH♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to stop having sex or have him wear protection or she needs to get on the pill ASAP. If she knows she does not want to get pregnant then she needs to get on birth control of some kind and make him use a condom.
I feel they are too young to be engaging in adult activities anyway. Sex is for adults not teens or preteens.
If all he cares about is sex then he can hit the road.
2006-07-12 16:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't respect her decision to stop having sex, he isn't worth keeping. And she's right, she might get pregnant on the pill. I did - twice. Sounds like birth control is not her issue. It sounds like she's using that as an excuse to NOT have sex. She needs to either tell him or get on some birth control (or both).
2006-07-12 16:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tina K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her boyfriend, and get checked out since I am guessing they didn't use a condom. Ultimately it's her decision and if she dosn't feel responsible enough to use birth control of some sort (condom, diaphram, etc) she should follow her instinct and if her boyfriend loves her he will respect her decision since it is made for the right reasons.
2006-07-12 15:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by melissajeanwilson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sex is NOT the most important part of a relationship. relationships are built around love trust and comunication. sex is an added bonus. u should persuade your friend to do what she feels is right, b/c face it, she is right. and if she still continues to have sex then get her to go somewhere for birth control pills.
2006-07-12 15:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur friend talk to her mom about this. Her mom might known what to do. About her boy wanting to have sex.
2006-07-12 15:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by zoedean20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should talk to her mom to get her on the pill and use condoms. and if she doesnt want to have sex then let her be.
2006-07-12 15:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by jopuppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the boyfriend needs to get some condoms.He could ask and older brother or cousin.If she just don't want to have sex she should just say NO.
2006-07-12 15:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey a man that not will to respect your mind is not worth being with.
2006-07-12 15:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by shania02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋