ok, in one of my past questions i spoke about a friend who was not speaking to me. but now she has got worse - she is blatantly ignoring me and walking off whenver i try and say something, and is making snidey comments and stupid faces about anything i say. it is driving me crazy, but i am normally a v well tempered person. so, should i have a go at her about it seeing as she will not talk it through, or ignore her and wait for it to blow over. btw - she thinks she is better than me in everyway, and others too.
2006-07-12 08:22:42 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is an easy question.
The best people make you feel loved and worthwhile. They listen and respond with care. Your former friend strays far from this ideal.
She has poor communication skills. She is unable to maturely discuss what is bothering her.
The best people never think they are better than you. They are humble. People that make you feel lower are not worthwhile people to be around.
I agree with the other posters. This person is not worth the energy you have spent thinking about her.
2006-07-12 08:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that she was compeltly out of order today, it was just plain rude to ignore you and walk away when you were mid sentance, and to not give us a lift!!! she may think that she is in the right but shes not, you dont deserve to be treated like that honey, you are such a beautifull, loving, good, CALM natured person and she is really ticking you off in a bad way!!!!
She does not deserve to be your friend right now when she is treating you like just a passerby, hopefully things will blow over, but i would not recommend that you say sorry first at all, if she says it then ok you can forgive her. But i would want to tell her what is on my mind and if she makes another little dig at you again like she did today, then that speach you just came out with would be great, tell her that you dont appreciate being left out after being friends with her for so long, what nearly 6 years, and these snipey remarks are not just hurting you but they are hurting her friendship with other people in the group, and if she is still willing to loose other friendships over one little detail and things that are in the past and well forgotten then she doesnt deserve you or anybody else.
2006-07-12 08:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is driving you crazy, then pull her aside from everyone else and ask her what her malfunction is? Find out why she is upset with you. Don't worry or care about what other people think. just be true to yourself. If she don't want to be your friend, then it is her loss. Move on and make other friends. Don't take about her behind her back, then you will be stooping to her level. be the better person and make the first move. if you find out that she has a valid reason for what she is doing, then apologize. Other then that, you really don't need a friend like that.
Good luck
2006-07-12 08:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by JACK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but anyone who treats you like that is not a friend. You shouldn't blantenly ignore her but you shouldn't hang out with just her and you either. Invite her to do group activites but don't do anything with her other wise becuase then you'll end up blowing up on her and losing her completley. In the mean time work on developing your relationships with other friends. That way you won't be alone. Who knows, you could find a really great best friend out of this whole thing!
2006-07-12 08:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by divaintraing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may think she has a reason to act this way. Maybe she has taken something you have said or done in the wrong way, but if she was a true friend she would explain what was wrong and see what you had to say about it. As you are concerned it shows you are a far better person to have as a m8, and from what you have said it seems you are better off without the snotty nosed bint.
2006-07-12 08:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by jojitsui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't speak to her and ignore her too. This will probably will blow over and then one of you will initiate the conversation someday. But if I was you I wouldn't make any effort to start a conversation until she at least says Hello to me passing by or at least looks at me and acknowledged me.
Sometimes a bit time apart is best to then start again with a clearer head.
Good luck!
2006-07-12 08:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mary7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her and tell her to grow up, instead of being immature. If you're still in high school, confront her in the bathroom so you can keep her from leaving. Stick up for yourself and show her you are tougher and are willing to go through this tough time with her to set the record straight or to reconcile your friendship.
Or, just leave her alone and see if things blow over.
However, if she starts rumors or if you start hearing stuff from your friends that she's talking about you, go up to her from behind and tap her on the shoulder and go off on her and say if she has something to say to you, say it to your face. Let her have a piece of your mind and if possible, don't allow her to hit you or push you around. My mom always told me if someone pushes me or hits me, I'm allowed to hit or push them back. Again, stick up for yourself and don't let someone else determine who you talk to and who you hang with.
Sounds to me like she's totally immature and bratty. I hope you can get through this time... I know it hard and I hate messed up friendships, but it happens to everyone. Good luck.
2006-07-12 08:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by whatzerface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise that you first of all try and get her to reveal what iw bothering her , you dont know you might have unintentionally done something to hurt her which she is holding against you. Once she lets it out and you apologise everything will hopefully be back to normal again.
If you then try talking to her and she doesnt reveal anything that you have done to deserve this kind of treatment, you are at liberty to step back from from such an unfruitful relationship.
2006-07-12 08:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That girl is NOT your friend!! She is not worthy of your time and company so find a new friend. I wouldn't even waste my time talking to Miss Thang. There are plenty of people out there who would like to be your friend. Keep doing what you're supposed to be doing and keep your head up. Move on with your life and I wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-12 08:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thinks she's better than everybody else? Who died and put her in charge of the universe? People who are your friends do not make you feel bad about yourself. Cut your losses and find someone who doesn't act like a 3 year old having a hissy fit.
2006-07-12 08:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by RetroGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋