My friend Michelle is good at everything, school, music, band, singing, art; the only thing I have that I do better then she does is sports. Recently I encouraged her to lose alot of weight and she did, I'm happy for her. But now she is getting into athletics with me and totally trying to take over my sports edge. Am I jealous, or am I right.
2006-07-12 07:45:54 · 24 answers · asked by SoccerChick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think u should talk to her because if that is the only thing you have over her than she shouldnt try to be butting in i dont think your jealous
2006-07-12 07:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by gracielou 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You've been a good friend through her struggle to lose weight and I can totally understand the need to be the best at something...BUT...you want your friend to enjoy sports, right? It's something that the two of you can enjoy together until well past the time when you're old and grey. Sports are too good not to share. Use her interest in developing athletic ability to challenge yourself to improve, too. You're good at sports and that's awesome - and it's something that you don't want to lose, which is also good.
Yes, you are jealous, and that is a perfectly normal reaction. We can't control the way we feel, but we CAN control what we do with those feelings. Do something positive with them. Don't let jealousy ruin your friendship...use it to strengthen it! Get out there and run drills with Michelle. Encourage her and help her and she'll do the same for you. Be competitive - that's a huge part of sports, and as an athlete, I'm sure you know that already. Use that competition to get better...when you're training against somebody you can make huge strides. Just try not to take the competitions off the field, if you can.
And if she DOES wind up better than you at some sport, you'll be able to say "I taught her everything she knows!" There's no shame in that at all.
2006-07-12 07:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jinx U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your jealous, its natural for people to feel that way. I know that i have a friend that is a lot smarter than i am and the only thing that i do better than her is sports. I would imagine that if she started trying to become an athlete i would feel the same way you do. Also, if your good at the sports you play, then its kind of hard for her to take away your athletic edge.
2006-07-12 07:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by claytont2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Michelle has the right to pursue sports whether you are interested in them or not.
If you think she's doing it solely to annoy you, you might ask her as politely as possible. I wouldn't, though. However, it sounds like she's discovered a love of sports--with your encouragement, I'll remind you--in her efforts to lose weight. Because you encouraged her, you can take that as a compliment!
Yes, you do sound jealous. Read the novel A Separate Peace by John Knowles. Jealousy can be dangerous if you don't keep it in check. You have a right to your feelings, but watch your actions and your words.
2006-07-12 07:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are jealous, but you may have a right to be. She is starting "your thing", when she has a lot of "her things" already. But maybe she is doing it because she is jealous of YOU, and wants to do what you do, or because she admires you and wants to copy you. They say imitation is the highest form of flattery. Is she better at the sports than you? Even if she is, try not to be so competetive with her. It will hurt the friendship, just focus on yourself. You must have a lot going for you other than sports, but when you are young sometimes it is hard to see.
2006-07-12 07:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like jealousy to me. It's not like you own sports! Throughout life there are going to be people who are better than you in just about every thing you do. They key is to be happy with what you are doing, and what you have. It's not always easy, but you will get more satisfaction from life if you can appreciate your activities for the fun you have while doing them, the friendships you make and the improvement you see in your skills, rather than the thrill of being better than someone else. Good luck!
2006-07-12 07:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are jealous of your friend Michelle. She can't do everything though! No one is perfect. Think of it this way, if she's trying to "take over your sports edge" and trying to beat you at everything, she's probably jealous of you too. Plus, she might be mad that you implied that you thought she needed to lose weight.
2006-07-12 07:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Chanelle Bobelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous but that is natural. Be a good sport though. Learn to compete with yourself not others. Set your own bench marks. And try to do better than YOU are doing now.
2006-07-12 07:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by X factor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is one of those people who HAVE to be good at everything. I wouldn't blame her for anything. After all, you two are friends, you shouldn't be arguing or feeling jealous if one of you is better at something than the other is.
2006-07-12 07:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mongs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're jealous. She is your friend, not your enemy. It seems like you do alot of the same stuff she does, so why not branch out? Look for other things that she doesn't do, that would gain more confidence in yourself. Try something new.
2006-07-12 07:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous. Get over yourself. Be happy for your friend. Some people are just good at everything. If you can't handle it, don't be her friend.
2006-07-12 07:47:58 · answer #11 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋