Some of his answers are filthy, I can't believe they are from him. At least not the him I know.
2006-07-12 07:34:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First things first: Make sure that the account name is actually his.
If it is, you need to talk to him about it in a calm, open, questing way -- not in a way that comes across as aggressive or controlling.
Find out what exactly he does here, and why.
Find out why he finds it easier for him to spend time here than elsewhere in real life. What does he get out of it?
You want to really learn his heart, especially before you make any accusations.
If the screen name is his, and you are bothered/shocked by some of his comments, you can tell him you were surprised and even hurt by what you read, since he is acting in a way different than the man you know, and you want to understand why this change is happening.
The gist here: He's your husband, you're committed to your relationship, and so you need to use this as an opportunity to find out his heart and learn how you can encourage and help him to be a more godly person. You're not here to shame him into obeying you, or punishing him for hurting you.
[I think there are at least two issues here in you: You sound upset first of all that he is saying things that you think are immoral; and you also sound upset because you feel like he is neglecting you to participate in forums with strangers.]
You should pray. First, pray for yourself. Ask God to help you love him appropriately, even if that means challenging him on some things or otherwise even holding back if the time is not right. Ask for help to see clearly, to set your own desires and pains aside for a moment, so that you can do what is best for the spiritual growth of your husband -- rather than what you think might be best for you per se.
Pray then to that your husband would be receptive to your discussion and open to hearing whatever needs to be said -- and willing to change what he is doing if necessary.
Again, not the spirit of condemnation here.. he is your husband, and you two are bound together as one. You need a spirit that desires to see the greatest good come out of this, that he can be the man God wants him to be, whatever that might mean.
2006-07-12 08:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unplug the server cable from the PC and don't give it back until he talks to you about his Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hide syndrome (Hide the battery pack if it's a laptop). Find out why he finds the internet more amusing than his wife. Search yourself for any reason you could have given him to behave that way. In any case, it's not going to get solved without you confronting him about it. Good luck.
2006-07-12 07:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Susan P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. Maybe his is trying to live another life through the forum that is a side of him he's never revealed to you.
2006-07-12 07:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This world is not real. People say things on here that they would not normally say face to face.
So *** off btch and stop medaling in your husbads computer. Hes just using this site to click over to when you walk in the room. He's probably on some porno site all the time.
See what I mean? I wouldn't say that to your face......or would i?
2006-07-12 08:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Scott M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 03:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn new things about my mate all the time hes suppose to be a Christian confront him let him know , you know what he is doing straight out your uncomfortable with it.
2006-07-12 07:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kay D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to address this if it's bothering you. Marriage requires lots of work, If you can't resolve it, find a decent counselor you both respect and will listen to.
2006-07-12 07:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by Glennroid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it women are never satisfied, would you rather he be on a porn site? the reason why he is on this site is because he finds it intresting and want to give advice, chill out lady!
2006-07-12 07:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, maybe you should confront him about it and ask him who this other guy is.
2006-07-12 07:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him what his deal is. Maybe he has a problem.
2006-07-12 07:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by Mz.H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋