I also know the man's wife. He is technically not my boss but he is "higher up" in the company. I don't want to lose my job or suffer consequences from this. The man's secretary is a pretty blonde who seems to enjoy the affection, though she doesn't say much. She dresses in a provocative manner (low cut blouses, little skirts, heels, etc). I don't really know what to do about this situation. I feel really terrible when the man's wife is at my place for barbeques and chatting with me and my family...and I know what her husband is up to at work.
2006-07-12 07:24:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
2 things you should consider office retaliation and sexual advances in a public workplace.
Does your company have an HR dept? If not then check your employee handbook and find out if your company has a "no retaliation" policy. If you are seriously thinking about reporting this incident I also suggest you think about who this senior partner is friends with in the office. They could cause you problems in the future if you report it.
The fact they were conducting their affection at work is wrong all around. As an HR Rep I suggest you talk to your companies HR Rep or your boss if it bothers you. Their affair should not be conducted at work.
2006-07-12 07:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not get involved if I were you. This situation could turn out really bad for you if you tell the wife what you saw. It would be different if they were really close friends of yours and you had a very open relationship. She may already know what he is up to anyway. Go to work and put in your time and then leave it all there when you go home. Good luck!
2006-07-12 07:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get that this is an uncomfortable situation for you, but I think the best thing to do would be to just stay out of it. What is happening is very unfortunate, but it is really beyond your control and not your responsibility to report. You sound like a good person who just wants to make things right, but really - try not to feel guilty for keeping silent. If you noticed something, it is likely that the story will come out eventually anyway. But if you are the one that initially says something, you could be blamed for stirring things up at work. Relax and try to just focus on your work - you can't be fired for refusing to mix yourself up in the workplace drama.
I'm sorry you have to be put in this situation - I too would be tempted to say something, but I really feel that it's for the better to let things go as they will.
2006-07-12 07:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Tarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you mailed the wife an anonymous note about the situation? I wouldn't want to risk losing my job, or have promotions pass me by, but I also wouldn't want to see the wife be made a fool of. Perhaps mail it from a neighboring town? At least give her a clue. After that maybe you should turn a blind eye to it...you've done your part. Sounds cold and callous, but you don't want to risk your job...good luck with handling this one!
2006-07-12 07:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a senior partner that says he has money somtimes wealthy wifes no but dont care and look the other way shes happy with $$ and may have a boyfriend herself for all you know its not your place im sure your wife likes your salary dont get involved or you could be looking for another job what she has between her legs is much stronger than you think she will screw the right person and your gone.
2006-07-12 14:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this behavior is disturbing to you (and it sounds like it is), the behavior is sexual harassment. It doesn't really matter whether this partner is single or married, sexual activity in the workplace in not appropriate This is illegal, and, unless you don't mind being put in this position in the future, you have an obligation to report it.
Your best bet, assuming it exists, is a call to your company's ethics line. (Should allow anonymity.) Failing that, I would recommend you contact your human resources department.
2006-07-12 07:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by weirina85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chuck, I would leave this one alone. Just because you see this guy behaving inappropriately, it is not affecting your job performance. However, if you do pry into someone else's business, it very well could affect your job performance by causing you to lose your job altogether. I would just go about my business and let God handle it. And who knows, maybe his wife knows he's a filanderer!
2006-07-12 08:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Keiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be best to mind your own business and be tight lipped about the matter. The wife will find it out eventually. Just take care of yourself and don't do the same thing.
2006-07-12 07:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by leebaugh2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being sexually harassed, and maybe the secretary is, too. Workplaces MUST be free of this kind of crap - it's the law! Report both of them to the most powerful part of any company..Human Resources!
2006-07-12 07:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You risk retaliation if you tell. Perhaps you can let HR know anonymously.
Key questions: is the secretary a willing participant? Does the partner flaunt his behaviour, or have you "caught" them?
2006-07-12 07:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by ps2754 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋