when we are watching flog it we always disagree whether people should sell things that have been left to them by grandparents or parents, my partner says if they don't like the object it's fine, but i think it's just wrong you should keep it to remember them.
2006-07-12 07:13:53 · 29 answers · asked by frenchy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thats a personal choice, not an argument that can be won.
lets say you get "a serving dish" , I dont want a serving dish, I could keep it in my attic and never see it again and my kids can deal with it when I am dead, or I can sell it to some one that will use it and love it as much as mom did.
It is a personal choice.
2006-07-12 07:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Me 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I would advise against an absolute policy of always keeping anything and everything simply because it was given to you by your elders. That is simply not practical in this age of limited space. You could easily become suffocated under all the weight of all the stuff that others unload on you.
You two have a commitment to live for each other, not your relatives' stuff. If you consider each item individually and weigh the tradeoffs of whether you keep, sell, or donate the item, you are far more likely to survive as a couple without falling into resentment over the imposed legacy of other people's things.
In short, keep what is truly important, and respectfully dispose of the rest in a manner that feels right to the both of you. Take pictures of the stuff you're getting rid of if you wish, since it is just as easy to remember your relatives by looking at pictures of their things as it is to have those things on hand. Keep in mind that donating some items may be the best way to honor the original owner, since some deserving young couple may truly need and appreciate some old thing that is nothing more than a sentimental piece of clutter to you and/or your partner.
2006-07-12 08:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by Fred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that different people have different views. for some people, when they pass thingsdown through the family they would much rather see their grandchildren or whoever enjoy the objects than let them rot in a cupboard out of site. if that enjoyment can be got better by selling the object to use the cash for a well needed holiday or towards a new house then why not sell it?
2006-07-12 07:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by efhire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you remember someone in your heart, an item isn't going to make a difference. If the item means something to you then sure, but just think if the item was worth tens of thousands of dollars and you could use it to put a down payment on a house, the house is going to be worth a lot more and still help you remember your loved one much more than a teapot or what ever the item was.
2006-07-12 07:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life goes on. I believe it's a personal decision. If it had sentimental value then by all means keep it. But if it's something you don't like then why not sell it? Get some extra cash and buy yourself something nice. That way it came from the deceased person and you can have a new memory.
2006-07-12 07:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by Queen of Kings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the point of holding onto an object, even if it is valuable, if it is going to be hidden away in a cupboard where you can't see it.
If you like it, use it. If you like it but your partner doesn't & its hidden away, sell it.
Memeories last longer than things anyway & i am sure that the money would come in handy.
2006-07-12 07:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that one is always going to be a measure of sentiment. some people need or feel comforted by a solid object. others need only their memories. so, it should be up to the person who lost the loved one to decide keep, or sell, and their partner should be supportive of that.
2006-07-12 07:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by music 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some 'things' are best left not remembered or worth toting about... they'll become an albatross. One should keep their fondest memories and let the rest go; but if there's a special item or two that's 'special', then it should be kept. It really isn't an issue of right or wrong...
2006-07-12 07:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by nomad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would NEVER sell anything that has been handed down to me through family members. I treasure the memories or just the knowing that my aunt or dad or cousin valued this picture or whatever. Even if I don't use it or like it it is part of my family and has history. Either I store it, or give it to another family member to hole on to. NEVER would I give it away-shows lack of respect!
2006-07-12 09:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell the stuff or you wind up with a house full of someone elses things ,these are only things,it's memories that count
2006-07-12 08:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋