I am 17 and will be 18 in sept. I am pregnant, and need help on telling my parents that im pregnant...My "adopted" mom and me really dont get along at all, because she is ALWAYS following my adopted dad around trying to win his love back. My mother gave me up a year ago, and now i have to tell two sets of parents, and my boyfriends parents...Me and my boyfreind have decided to keep the child...NO ABORTION OR ADDOPTION...he has a job and is working on getting his second one...and i am trying to find one now...i found out tuesday and again yesterday i was pregnant...and now i have a Dr. appt. thursday so noone can say "go to the dr." we have to take antoher test to come up ++ and i can get help with the baby and all....i just need to know how to tell two sets of parents...My addopted father has been with me since i was 2, and left until i was 16, and my addopted mother has only known me a year. im just really scared...please no rude comments
2006-07-12 07:00:55 · 21 answers · asked by ruspecialenuf 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
And yes...because of my pregnancy Everyone is now grandparents that werent b4 and all siblings are....uncles
2006-07-12 07:08:52 · update #1
im afraid there going to disown me, and perhaps make it so i cant see my bf anymore (they have done this before...not let me see my boyfriend) and i dont want them to tell me i need to get an abortion...i jsut want there help
2006-07-12 07:11:02 · update #2
Only thing you can do is tell them. No special way is going to change the way they feel about it. You just have to sit them down, tell them you have something important to say, and just tell them.
2006-07-12 07:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just set all of ur parents down and tell them the problem and if they start screaming and yellin and tellin u stuff u dont want to here tell them in a calm voice that u have in under control tell them u will be 18 soon and u have to deal with ur own responsiblities now but remeber keep calm the hole time u tell them keeping calm will help keep them calm and help u explain better ive never been in a sition like this since im only 13 .
I WISH ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD FOR
2006-07-12 07:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. Its your baby, and no matter how upset they are at you, or how excited they are, life is going to be the way you set it to be. They don't have a choice if you keep this baby or not. This baby will be part of their family whether they like it or not. If they are upset initially, I am sure it will change. You and your boyfriend just need to sit down with them and tell them together. Tell them you want this baby, and that there are no other options you guys will consider. Tell them your plans for the future (jobs, school, assistance, etc.). Prove to them you two can be responsible and will be adults about it. Explain that you want them to be a part of your child's life. Good Luck.
2006-07-12 07:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Biz. There's no special way to tell them. Buttering them up with icecream sundaes isn't going to make it easier for them to take in the news. The best thing to do is prepare yourself mentally before you tell them. Promise yourself that you won't raise your voice or revert to the "child mode" when talking to them. Speak to them calmly, tell them all the stuff that you told us- that you've both decided to keep the baby and that you're both looking for jobs. You plan on being fully responsible and ask for their love, help, and blessings. They might be disappointed, and they'll more than likely be worried for you. Ask that they support your decision, because it will be the best gift they can give to you and your future family. I would probably tell them WITH your boyfriend so that they see that you're both serious and are both willing to make the pregnancy work. When you're with your family, YOU do the talking unless your boyfriend is asked a question. Switch that up when you tell his family. Don't treat it like it's the worst thing that's ever happened, but don't treat it like it's the greatest either. You're young, and that will really worry them. You sound like you're mature enough to handle what's ahead though, so I wish you and your family the best of luck.
Oh, and drink water before you go over there. I can still remember the cotton mouth I had when I told my parents I bought a car without them. I can't imagine what your mouth will feel like when you tell them you're pregnant. :)
2006-07-12 07:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't have that great of a relationship with them then why do you have to tell them? It's your baby and your life. Do what you want. If you are afraid that they won't be supportive why do you have to tell them? But if you really do feel like they should know, just phone them up and tell them. Or you could all go out for lunch or something and tell them then.
2006-07-12 07:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation phone calls may be the safest method. You are in control of the situation and you can control the length of the encounter, if it gets emotional or agressive, you can say "I gotto go" and hang up.
If you are comfortable with the person, like his parents or your adoptive father, maybe delivering the news in person is appropriate. I have good relationships with all my family members and we told them over the phone. It doesn't have to be in person.
If you can't contact by phone, send an announcement in the mail with a picture of you and your boyfriend.
2006-07-12 07:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could sit them down and just be like... nobody is perfect and me and (your boyfriends name)have done some things that was my choice to do and something happened... as of right now we are preparing to have a child. tell them that you and him are going to support it so they dont have to worry about that...tell them that when you turn 18 you guys will look for an apartment or rent a house so that they dont have to feel like they have to support you and your child. Congratulations and I wish you both luck! A baby Can be a wonderful thing!
2006-07-12 07:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by Babes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad to hear you intend to keep. Telling the parents is an easier decision than that. and as silly as it sounds the best way to tell some one some thing is just out with it. so Buck up, be brave the fact is the fact and they will get over it or they won't, how you deal with it is your problem how they deal with it is there problem, and they will likely come around once they get over the first shock.
2006-07-12 07:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be upfront and honest.
None of us know you or your parents. I think that you have to decide which way is best for you. I would go with telling the parents that you are closest with first. You may get a sonogram at your first appointment show it to them and tell them that this is my child and I plan on raising it with its Dad.
2006-07-12 07:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by rranderson1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you have something very important to tell them and that you need their full and undivided attention. Then, jsut tell them that you are pregnant. THen let them know that you are responsible and have everything under control and tell them what you plan to do and what course of action you plan to take. Tell them, they dont need someone to judge them, there will already be enough people to do that. Tell them you want them to support you even if it is just emotionally. And tell them you are willing to take any and all responsibilty required to properly raise your child. Good Luck
2006-07-12 07:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by dancer_486 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋