Can you name a childs path?

Question

If you said to your child..."You are going to be a doctor" And reinforced thoes words every single day do you think he would end up being a doctor?.....well take that same idea and if you were to tell your child..."you are going to be a beautiful natural healer, or...perhaps psychic..." Do you think they would become that?....Do you think that we hone our children or you were honed, to a certain path by our parents?...

Answer 1

If 'honing' was that easy, is it not ironical that usually the children of very good school teachers generally don't seem to really do well in academics, so also the children of spiritual persons are not necessarily inclined the same way !
At best, a parent who has keen sense of awareness and fair experience of 'life' can judge the natural inclination of the child better and be supportive to 'allow' the child to evolve towards his inclination . It is quite enough even to just provide a 'free ' conducive atmosphere at home, so that the child gets the opportunity to spend some time with himself and really see what he likes or what it is that draws him/her towards it.
All this, that we are talking about, is an ideal situation, and very truly, in the present day scenario, very very difficult to create with the given factors around influencing so heavily even on the so-called-well-settled-adults, so as to suddenly throw them off the gear ! It is this delicate balancing act that really demands the skill of 'teaming-together' from the parents, and other adults in the family ! To me, the first basic clue lies in trying to be 'present' meaningfully, participating 'with' the child, thus essentially constituting what is traditionally known as 'parent'(ing!).
Only this kind of explanation appears so complex, once the values are in place, the actual perfomance is like a long, hectic but thorougly enjoyable 'picnic' full of memorable events, sight seeing, rich experiences, and what not ! Truly a rewarding experience, this upbringing.

Answer 2

I think that sort of "reinforcement" every day would net the same result as if we said, "You are not leaving this table until you eat your cabbage." Eventually, the child may become a doctor or psychic, but will resent the fact that they were not allowed to choose.

Besides, each person is an individual. The human experience includes finding your own path. If someone else chooses it for you, you end up bitterly regretting all of the things you missed.

Answer 3

Children end up being the opposite of what you may want or expect. That said, all the men on my Dad's side of the family are small business owners, however, we all do something different. Nobody encouraged me to follow that path. Different but the same.

You may also be interested in the Kabalarian theories. Interesting philosophy on how our name shapes us from birth.

Answer 4

it is not for the parents to name or desire a certain path for their children, but rather for them to encourage the talents that their children have been blessed with in order that the child should be able to realise his/her destiny in the course of their life. however, you can not stop a parent from doing that it is the natural instinct to preserve your heritage. although heritage is not right of existence as it is for the human soul all that is desire is the destiny that ones path will further the course of human enlightenment far more than just evolution and development but in to the realms of true happiness and righteousness of the spirit. it is the common mistake that we hone ourselves for the perception of oneself rather that the perception of the human species, but all are possible. it only becomes a question of is it right that we hone ourselves for our children or our parents at the expense of humanity.

Answer 5

I think you can guide a child in a broader sense. If you tell the child education is important their whole life they will believe it and keep it as a priority, but I dont think you can raise them to be a doctor or dentist. All people have their own wills and desires, and likes and dislikes. Inside their own life they will choose what they desire to do but with our guidance as there directions how to get where they choose. Hope that's not to confusing.

Answer 6

That is a truly great question that's very original. I've wondered that, too. If I had different parents, would I have turned out different.
But the power of the brain is amazing, believing in something often makes it happen.
If no limits are set on a child's brain, they can do truly great things.

Answer 7

To some extent yes.
I don´t mean to say that if my parents wished for me to become a doctor I would actually become one, not things this specific, but other things they can ´manipulate´.
They could tell you, for example, that you needed to be the best in all, to be very smart, etc., and because of the pressure, you would perhaps end up wanting to gain more and more knowledge, just to please them. On the other hand, they could tell you, you are worthless, stupid, things like that, and because you are a child, and so susceptible, you would start believing them unconsciously and acting according to it.
What really matters is: the child. Is it powerful enough to evolve on its own merits, evaluating him/herself, deciding for him/herself, without letting the parents wishes, desires, thoughts outweigh his/her own, the kid is lucky! But in a lot of cases, luck seems not to be there...
Parents tend to see their kids, I do not mean willingly or even malevolently, as a mirror of their own expectations to life. I think a kid grows up, when looking at his/her parents he realizes: they finally see me as a person!

Answer 8

well i think if you told your child they were going to be a doctor every day of their lives they would probably end up being one because they have always believed they would be. But if you were to tell them they would be psychic then i dont think they actually would be but the might end up believing they are, and end up reading tarot cards or something for a living because they think they must be or have to be.

Answer 9

i think you can direct a child down a path of your choosing, but for them to be an harmony and truly happy it must be their path not your dream as a parent. watch the child take note of their natural inclinations abilities and encourage them "gently". never form a preconceived plan he/she will be. that may not be their destiny, after all we come into this world for a specific lesson, you may cause suffering in this lifetime as well as the next if you interfere

Answer 10

I think that is possible. Both of my parents where in the Army, in telecommunications. I went into the Marines, infantry. I wanted to become a US marshal, turns out that after I got out of the Marines, I ended up working for Verizon, doing telecommunications engineering. Weird how that worked out.