in the past few days ive found out that my ex cheated on me while i was with her and people who i thought were my friends have stopped talking to me so im considering cutting myself off from all human contact , should i do this? and if not why?
2006-07-12 06:18:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Do not cut yourself off. You need a new group of friends. Go out and do things, make new friends, have fun.
There are a lot of good people out there. Don't let some losers in your life deprive you of a happy future. Make those losers part of your past. You need to move forward with a smile on your face. There is a Latin phrase that roughly translates to: "Don't let the Bastards get you down."
2006-07-12 06:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your pain and recovery from it will make you stronger. Isolate if you must but only for a short time, change your friends, find new ones you don't really want to be friends with people who will treat you like that anyway or do you? Heal your wounds but get right back out there and creat more this will only build character as well as make you stronger and ready for the next blows! Try to laugh it off and find the humor in it. Don't show them that you are hurt show them you are stong and can mend quickly. It may hurt but don't let it, worse things could happen be thankful it was this and not something else also be greatful and full of adventure that you found out they were like this before you married this person....If I could only count the times this has happened to me- hope it doesn't happen again to you but sometimes it does and can over and over. Try being attracted to a different type of person. One more honest that could tell you if they wanted to be with someone else or not at that point it would be up to you to set it up or leave theat one to - play together not behind backs!
2006-07-12 13:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be the last person that should be talking,considaring that I feel like doing that right now. -.-
But I'm going to answer,since I can relate to you there. It's okay to want a break for a bit,from what I've been told it's bad if it's longer than a week or two. This is when you go to the people that you can count on the most,which is your family. Talk to them about what happened,your feelings about it and wanting to isolate yourself there. If after sometime you feel that way,go to a place where they can help you (to a hospital and there therapist unit),to work through your feelings of isolation.
I hope this helped you a little bit there,remember your not ony one out there with this feeling.
2006-07-12 14:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by Gadget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is tough honey. I am in the same boat with being hurt from loved ones all of my life. I have been the black sheep in my family and they hurt me often. I have been hurt in relationships with my boyfriends as well and I feel like shutting myself away from everyone all of the time. But you know what? why let them do that to you, you only live once and you should live it to the extreme. I wouldnt look for anyone to date at this time if I were you. I would just kick back hang out with some good friends and have a wonderful time living life. Go boating, skiing, camping, kareoke, movies, wine tasting, jump from a plane, bungy jump... do things that you havnt done before. Before you leave this planet you can be true to yourself.....you can say...."yea I did that" to your friends and loved ones. I think that you just need YOUR time and dont live for anyone else at this time. You need some YOU time and you never know the most wonderful people may just fall into your lap when you least expect it. Good Luck!!!
2006-07-12 13:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear you're having a rough go, Bra!! I've been cheated on too and it hurts like hell, but you do find a way to deal with it. You should try to find out why your friends stopped talking to you before you cut them out of your life - it might be a simple misunderstanding!
Should you isolate yourself? That's a little extreme, Bra - after all, what you're experiencing is something we all go through - it's called life! You won't learn how to deal with the bigger things in your life if you're hiding from the smaller!
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-07-12 13:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONO,for the next girl in your life LISTEN to her before you choose to date her or go with her, learn from that last girl, it is good to trust someone BUT, until you get to know her, see, listen, and ask questions, not that this plan is100% it is not but you will be able to not be so shocked, as for your friends not talking to you dint be so down maybe you tell them to much they want to avoid you, possible find out the reason and make the decision to be friends or not, take control of your actions, be a leader not a follower, if you shut down your life you wont like yourself, they are not worth it, only you are worth it, that is hard but the truth, love life dint hide from it, what would you do with all that energy? chalk it up to a bad situation and get up tell your mind you are in control and learn from trials and tribulations all through your life , if you hold on to the negative there wont be any time for positive,
2006-07-12 13:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there, done that,
just take the time for you, be hurt sad and talk to others.
these people you assumed were your "friends" werenot any at all .. look at it from the positive side, you have an expiernce, learn from it
do cut yourself from those you know right now,
go search for new ones as soon as you can, enjoy your life, that is the best revenge, since when you feel good, the others who tried to hurt you will feel bad,
so go enjoy your life
2006-07-12 13:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by spider-joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do that, then its like they win. Hold your head up high and carry on with life....no matter the pain. It gets easier as the days go by. Obviously you don't need people like that in your life so really what are you losing. Gets some new people in your life and show them that you are better than them. Good Luck Kid!
2006-07-12 13:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to my world! i was with a guy for 1 yr then we broke up due to his stupid actions, a month later my ex best friend calls me all happy and tells me that while we were datin he was with other girls on the side and she didnt want to tell me. then 2 years later i found out that all my friends were talkin behind my back and they stopped talkin 2 me out of no where and it hurt me becuz i hadnt done anything to them, they were just bein stupid. i think if you get new friends that would be better and u dont have to be close with dem keep ur distance but still be friends. now i have a new bf who i luv a lot n he aint cheatin on me and i got new friends so things are better. good luck.
2006-07-12 13:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about your family? Wouldn't they care about you being isolated? There is always better people out there to hang with or date. Don't sell yourself short.
2006-07-12 13:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by been there 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋