In the past year I have lost my home (had to move out of apartment from family after a decade), lost my child (wouldn't move with me), lost my security (financial and safety wise), lost my job (have a lower paying one now), lost all friends, lost most possessions (had to leave them behind) , and just lost everything. I have tried to pick up the pieces but things are just not like they were. I have a new job but it doens't pay enough, still have no real friends, see my child a little but no progress has been made and I don't think it will as my child is almost grown, I miss my possessions and memories although I have replaced most of my stuff, I just don't seem to be able to get things to where I want them and I have been trying for about a year.
2006-07-12 05:46:59 · 8 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
All of this stuff happened because I decided to try to live my own life and make my decisions and stand on my own feet for a change and it hasn't worked out too well. I also made some bad choices when it came to love after being alone for many years
2006-07-12 06:00:29 · update #1
Yes. I lost my Mother, my wife of 27 years, my 22 year old daughter and 18 year old son. Lost my house, my shop, my income, all my things. My wife (ex-wife now) was very devious and caused "our" house to be foreclosed on and also my Mother's house to be foreclosed on. I was born and raised in this little town that "was" my home and where all my friends were. It's been very difficult. The hardest thing for me was to move on to another state and try to pick up the pieces. Then I got sick this past December and got to where I couldn't work for a long time. I slept in my vehicle at night when it was cold, had no money for gas most of the time. At my age now, no one wants to hire me, even to do janitor type work, they say I am over qualified. It still looks pretty slim for me at this point, but thing have to get better if I keep trying. I am currently staying with a good friend, and had it not been for this friend, I probably wouldn't be alive today. This has been a very traumatic thing, to say the least.
2006-07-12 06:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by J. P. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lost almost everything before. Keep in mind it took more than a year to accumulate those things and getting them back will be a slow process. Having an empty nest makes you feel at loose ends. Work on your child that is most important! Because your child is almost an adult it will never be the same, but you have the chance to form an adult relationship with that child now. Keep your chin up and go slow it will come .
2006-07-12 05:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by Star of Florida 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had to leave my job, and it changed me. I had been searching for 2 years for a job when I finally got a job, the people there wouldn't allow me to work there because I am disabled. I got really sad, scared, and really didn't know what to do. Still kind of in that mind set too. Several relatives and my beloved dog died that same year. I have little money. I asked God for help and meditate on the bible daily. I really don't have friends. So I can relate somewhat.
Recovered alcoholic friend told me to practice being thankful. Thank God for what you do have. I have trouble doing it to. My life sucks really badly believe me. But when I do try it I feel better.
2006-07-12 06:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by stick man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! That was me about a year ago as well. I lost my husband, my daughter (he had her), my new truck, my job, my security, my happiness, my home and all of the friends that i had with my husband. All I can say is YOU are the only person that can decide how your future will turn out. Don't be discouraged. Everything happens for a reason, even if we don't understand it. Even the darkest of clouds part eventually and the sun shines once more.
2006-07-12 05:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Carissa is just Spanky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my home in January of 2005. It was January 4, and my house caught fire, and I lost my home and everything inside. I had to live in a hotel for 1 month, then I moved into a new house. My insurance agent only gave me 2,000 dollars to help me get back my stuff. Most of it was ruined. I lost a car. I lost most all of my many friends, I moved. I was horrible.
2006-07-12 05:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you get a "traditional marriage" like the one you were ranting about in your previous question? it's really hard to feel sorry for someone who hates everyone and everything in one question (and answers, like your response about hispanics in this country), and then whines about how bad their own life is.
try compassion and understanding for others, awareness and education about people besides yourself, and working to be a decent person in the world, and maybe you will feel better about yourself. THAT'S how you can turn your fate around.
2006-07-13 08:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by smack 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've lost my wife of 10 years and my 4 y.o. daughter, not to mention over $750,000.00 worth of property in the last year.
Keep in mind that it's not what happens to us in our lives that makes us who we are; it's how we deal with what happens to us in our lives that makes us who we are.
2006-07-12 05:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get help by patience and pray
2006-07-12 05:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ahmad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋