I have two kids and I have been seeing this guy that I have been friends with for a long time, just not intimate friends then. Well, it is coming down to us spending more time together and I want to include my children because I feel like I am not me without them, but I don't know what to think about him saying he is nervous around kids. Mine are 4 and 5, so they aren't babies really... what to do? Some life experiences would help.
2006-07-12 05:38:43 · 23 answers · asked by living this life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In response to what kind of guy he is, he is a high up in the business he works for and is involved in the fire department..... rounded i guess.
2006-07-12 05:54:43 · update #1
Nervous around kids, for a man who doesn't have any, means that he's scared he might do or say something wrong. It DOES NOT mean that he is scared of being in a relationship with a woman that has kids or that he is scared of the kids, he is scared of himself.
2006-07-12 05:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me I somewhat like kids. All my life I never wanted any. But when I was 46 I did. But now 52 and say to old.
Anyway when I was with someone that had kids. I was afraid I would do something wrong or say something around them there mother wouldn't like. Where if they were mind with the same person would be my kids and wouldn't be afraid of doing or saying the wrong thing.
Has happen to me two times I have seen someone for years and was fine. But when kids in the picture different stories. This one had a daughter when I first met her and she was 12. OK she didn't want me around at first. Than later we all three went everyplace. For years we were together. Than her daughter grew up and than she had the only reason I was still coming around was because of her daughter. Anymore I stay away for people with kids. They do get in the way.
2006-07-12 05:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by James H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, many guys just want a wife they can spend time with for a few years and get to know them before having children. When a woman already has children from a previous relationship, men will see this as additional responsibility that they aren't looking for. Many guys want to have children of their own as well, maybe just a biological instinct so that their own genes get passed on, not those of another guy. I'm not saying this is ok, just giving my opinion on how things are.
2006-07-12 05:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he was the youngest or only child in his family and doesn't have experience being around little kids very often. I'm an only child and I'm not really the best babysitter in the world, but I am a lot less nervous around kids if we're playing baseball or tag or something like that. Perhaps you should all go run around the yard a bit together.
2006-07-12 05:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by bachlava_9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do remember your kids must come first. Men with out kids of their own find them to be a cramp on there style, especially if they are trying to start a new relationship with a women. Get together with him and your kids and let him get to know them and them him. You'll soon be able to tell if he's a kid's person or not. If not....see the first line of this reply.
2006-07-12 05:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by rudytute 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women (and men) assume various roles and personna during the day. He's friends with a young woman, not a mommy. And playing Daddy to a "friend's" children can just get to be real icky.
Cut the guy some slack.
2006-07-12 05:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
convinced. i recognize a guy, who's amazingly responsible has gorgeous babies and ought to not in any respect contact or molest a toddler. He became a first college vital, and became a lot loved by each and every of the mummy and dad. notwithstanding, on a swimming carnival day, 2 of the troublemaking childrens reported he became 'perving on them' in the replace rooms even as he became getting the babies to accelerate for the bus. Over those claims he lost his job, his attractiveness became ruined, and any destiny occupation ruined. i quite dont imagine that's trustworthy.
2016-10-14 09:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to find a guy with kids of his own. I am divorced and my fiance has two, I have three. It isnt exactly the Brady Bunch, but we get along like they were all brothers and sisters, typical sibling spats, etc.
2006-07-12 05:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by Yote' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys don't want the package deal, its just the way it is. Find a guy that has a kid/s, its a much better match otherwise you will get close and he will walk becuase he doesnt want to raise kids that arent his its biological.
2006-07-12 05:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by boxing_fan_4_wlad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated several women with children. The guy has to be ready and willing to want and accept children in his life. If he can't do that then find someone who loves you and your kids.
2006-07-12 05:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by oh226 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋