I have a friend that always puts herself in situations, where she always needs someone. She has a living situation that she has had for as long as ive known her. She is 27years old with no childern, no car, no job and a drug habit. Well she is pregnant now (5months) and is looking for somewhere else to live until her 8month of pregnancy. I have already extended my home to her once and it almost ruined our friendship. She now want to come and stay with me again, and im not with it...But i feel bad because she is pregnant and has limited places to go.....what to do??
2006-07-12 05:30:02 · 9 answers · asked by Simple1 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She is obviously a friend in desparate need. If you love her, help her find ways to help herself. If you consistently give her reasons not to try, then she will never really get better. Let her know that she has a brain too.. make her use it. Help her,but dont live her life for her.
2006-07-12 05:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by AgentQT 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Where is the father of this baby?????? If he is no where in sight then maybe she should contact some adoption agencies who can put her in touch with adoptive families...they will gladly pay for her housing etc until she gives birth..and obviously she is in no position to be a mother, not with a drug addiction..which I hope she has kicked by now since she is pregnant anyway, but its unlikely these days...
Anyway, do not put yourself in the middle of her drama...she has created this life for herself and as long as everyone around her keeps supporting her y'all are just enabling her to stay depend ant on others instead of taking responsibility for herself. At 27 she should not be in the situation she is in....
2006-07-12 07:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is turn her in to the child protective services so that baby has a chance in life and no I would not let her move in with me again. She has already burned you once and Lord knows she hasn't quit doing drugs just because she has gotten pregnant. She has no respect for anybody but herself and you will get burned by her again if you let her move in. You need to tell her that.
2006-07-12 05:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her in touch with the various help agencies in your area. Try to get her the type of help she really needs. From your description she is going to need way more help with a baby that you can probably give. Contact social service or church groups and see whats available to help her through this time. Above all be there to support and lend an ear. She will need you now more that ever.
2006-07-12 05:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by rudytute 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously a very compassionate person.
Her taking advantage of you is absolutely selfish & inconsiderate of her.
She's being lazy... irresponsible... immature.
She needs to grow up & quit behaving like a child.
She's not your responsibility... she needs to learn to be independent, but she won't do it as long as anybody will bail her out of her messes.
Mooching means>>> steal, sneak, take, rob, get away with.
Since she's lazy & prefers mooching... as long as she continues to get away with mooching... why should she bother to do otherwise?
Some people actually think they're smart because they live off of mooching, but being lazy isn't smart... it's being lazy.
Lazy means>>> indolent, apathetic, unconcerned, indifferent, uncaring, inconsiderate.
Continually mooching off of others can eventually lead to destruction of the relationship.
2006-07-12 05:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is nothing more than a boat anchor. She will just bring you down with her. Do not be an enabler for her, make her sort her life out on her own. If she die, I guess she made the wrong choice.
2006-07-12 05:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Alan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She supports her drug habit then she can find a way to support herself. Letting her move in with you would be a mistake.
2006-07-12 05:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea, considering your previous experience with her. Try to find local agencies that may temporarily provide assistance.
2006-07-12 05:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her to local social services. you can't overextend.
2006-07-12 05:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋