I left my fiance of two years last December. We have a 16 month year old daughter together. I wanted him to fight for me when I left and come in live with me in my new apartment with our daughter. We had been on and off again for the last 5 months but now he has a girlfriend and I actually want him back. Despite what I tell people, I still love him with all my heart and I want us to become a family again.
2006-07-12 05:13:59 · 20 answers · asked by Lady C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Then maybe you shouldnt have messed with his emotions and left him in the first place. The best thing you can do now is to step back and leave him and his new girlfriend alone. Who knows maybe they wont work out and you'll get your chance to get back with him, but if you try and break him up your just gonna be the crazy ex-girlfriend. It'll just make your relationship with your ex worse and you need to stay on civil terms with him since you do have a child together.
2006-07-12 05:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK. Heres the answer.... good news ... you didn't lose him and the bad news is that after being with his new girlfriend, he wont know what hes got till its gone. Now this is not stating that maybe his new girlfriend is giving him a hard time, its just that the both of you have a 16 month year old daughter together. The kid will always be the bridge between two cities. Don't blame yourself for anything, people get on and fall off all the time and relationships always stay afloat but have the tendency to be topsy turvy. If your love is strong built on faith then you'll get him back. Now, once you guys get back together and i believe you will, keep in mind that you don't want to go back to the on/off relationship you had for 5 months. It'll at least make you a stronger person and foresee your mistakes before they happen. Keep your family together for the sake of your little girl. You'll be ok and your family will reunite. If you still have contact with him, tell him how you feel without the sob story. Sob stories draw guys away. Keep things to the point and don't be pushy. Things may be hard on you but there is no need to make things harder. Regain that love back in the form of a friend-like conversation about life in general. Leave out all the hardships you and him went through in the past and speak in comfort and not worry. i guarantee you'll get him back.
2006-07-12 13:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly honest, I think it was pretty stupid of you to leave him in the first place. Especially having had a young daughter. I think that going back to him will make you seem needy and weak and if there's a chance of you becoming a single mother, even if just for a little while, you need to be strong. Also, it seems a little funny that he's so fickle with the on and off thing... I would say that at this point, the best thing for you to do is take care of your daughter and try to build a stable friendship with your ex and make sure she gets spend time with him.
I know it sounds annoying, but that's the reality of life. Love is cruel. : (
2006-07-12 12:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing games and just tell him honestly what you're feeling. It sounds like he's playing games too. If you really love him then you should fight to get him back with all your heart, but you have to face the reality that relationships can end. Look into the future, plan your life without him in it, and make your daughter your first priority.
2006-07-12 12:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ ♫ ☮ NYbron ☮ ♪ ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do is to try to be his friend for now. No matter how hard it is, just act as though you are happy with yourself and support his decisions and his new life. Once he sees this consistently he will remember what a great person you are and remember why he loved you in the first place. Just remember - don't get jealous or angry. Once the timing is right tell him that you still care about him and that you still love him.
2006-07-12 16:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by Joy22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear...since he has a new girlfriend now, i think he may not want or is ready to settle down with you and your daughter. I'm sorry if that sounded harsh. You telling him how much you love him and want him back may not work becuase he has to really want to make things work. Also think of the reasons why you left, can he garantee you that things between you and him would be much better if you both reconciled. You have to think of you and your daughter's long term happiness
2006-07-12 12:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self "Why do i really want him back?' Am i just being selfish, do i REALLY LOVE HIM?
May sound cold but if he's moving on so should you, there's a guy @ your door stop looking pass him into the past and let him take u into your future with your Angelic child!
Good LUCK!
2006-07-12 12:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Josianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loved u then he will come back. the saying is if u let something go that u really love go and it comes back then it means so much more. and stop telling people what ever it is that u r telling cause they r going back telling him. let him no how u feel.
2006-07-12 12:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by phat mag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pls don't get him back in ur life, just let him go..
Time to lead life on your own.. you need alot of courage to just let go. Anyway, he has someone new already. No point holding back, what has passed will remain as memories.
What's important is to look ahead...
Cheers
2006-07-12 12:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by depressed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell people you love him with all your heart, tell HIM. Ask him to come over and tell him how you feel. Remember that saying, if you love something, let them go, if it was meant for you, it will come back to you........something like that.....if he is meant for you, he will be.
2006-07-12 12:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by romanov1918 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋