people really take advantage of my goodnesss,,,,,,,i dnt knw wat to do.. i do evry damn thng for my frnds but in return i get nothng....i cant change myself at alll......i luv my frnds but i think i m wasting my life for thm.....plz help me b4 i go mad plz
2006-07-12 05:10:52 · 18 answers · asked by riki k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No one can take advantage of you without your permission.
Practice saying the word "no" when no one is around. Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and say it until it sounds natural. Practice variations. "No, that's not what I want." "No, I don't want to." "No, I don't like that." Do this every day, if you have to, until you don't have trouble saying this even when people are around.
The first few times you say it to people, they will be surprised because they aren't used to hearing it from you. If anyone refuses to take no from you as an answer, dump this person because they aren't really your friend, anyway; they are just someone who hung out with you so they could exploit you.
2006-07-12 05:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by neanah_e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are fortunate to be such a loving person. many people never know what it is like to care deeply for others. but it also carries a burden, in that you will be taken advantage of.
the only thing you can do, is set your mind in a place where you can give away only what you don't need. think hard about what you give away, because you might never get anything in return. and if you can decide to do it anyway, you will have lost nothing. and if you ever do get something in return, you will realize why you were so giving all along. it is hard to be human, and it is hard to always feel like your gifts are wasted. but if you are so generous, i think it will be more painful if the world loses your kindness because some of your friends weren't careful with it. keep that, by continuing to give.
2006-07-12 05:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by uncle osbert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP. Take a breather and find a quiet place to meditate. Your being good to people is not a bad thing. When you do something good for other people, never expect anything in return, not even a "thank you". And choose the people you help. Because sometimes, the help we extend isn't helpful at all. Don't change yourself for being a good person. If your friends cannot appreciate your goodness to them, then they are NOT your friends to begin with because friends don't do that to each other.
If other people want to thank you, tell them that they should help another person and that's thanks enough for you.
2006-07-12 05:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't REALLy want to do something, then just say no. If they keep asking, just tell them to ask someone else. If you feel like you are wasting your life with them, then just find someone nice, who doesn't ask you so many things, and take advantage of you. Do what YOU want to do. Friends are supposed like each other, love each other, they shouldn't make you do everything just because you are generous and nice.
2006-07-12 05:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to LOVE yourself and stop letting others use you there are quality people in the world whose company you can enjoy-make up your mind not to fall for these losing relationships any longer! Giving and taking should go both ways in a relationship
2006-07-12 05:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to say no to friends who take advantage of you. It sounds like they really messed you up this time. Also maybe you need a different group of friends. Ask Jesus for help. Start attending a bible believing church and get connected to friends who won't take advantage of you.
2006-07-12 05:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by stick man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you help them but they dont help you are they really your friends? You should think about that before you invest more time with them. If give them an inch they will take a mile. They know they can walk all over you. Stand up for YOU!
2006-07-12 05:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by doc_djj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a saying - 'i have not done any good to them...so why are they complaining about me'?
develop your personality
i believe that you expect something in return when you do something good to others but u r frustrated if u do not get that
stop that....expect nothing and even after that if your heart says that u need to help somebody...do it
that way, u will be happy
2006-07-12 05:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by midas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sassy Says...
SET SOME BOUNDERIES girl!
set them and stick to them...for example....If you tell someone not to be mean around you or curse or something like that and they do it then you need to tell them hey, you know I dont like that so if you act or say that again I wont be able to hang out with you. It is not bitchy it is standing up for yourself and people will respect you for that! You will also respect yourself more.
2006-07-12 05:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by Free & Sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I want to say is that poem sound so pure and full of love. Is very beautiful indeed. Love is pain, everyone knows it, but if u will save in ur heart the goods that love gives u, u will be rich in heart and soul.
2016-03-27 02:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋