i just feel terrible. broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years last night. i want to call/text him but i know i shouldnt. I was giving it my all and he wasnt. Is the only thing that can cure heartache, time? I miss him terribly.
2006-07-12 05:07:55 · 18 answers · asked by BeAuTiFuL 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
My heart goes out to you. I've been there... I had a boyfriend for 5 years that I truly loved. After we broke up, we went back & forth for two more years with our relationship... thinking we could somehow make it work. That was the biggest mistake ever! All it did was add two more years of heartache for both of us.
It is going to take a long time for your heart to heal... but it eventually will!
The best thing you can do is stop contact with him completely. I know that sounds nearly impossible right now, since you dedicated the last 4 years of your life to him. Believe me though... you don't want to drag it out any longer. That just builds animosity.
The next best thing you can do is not to date for awhile. Take as much time as you need to emotionally heal. Don't jump into another relationship to fill the lonely void. The next man you date deserves to have your WHOLE heart... not the broken left overs.
Spend the single time enjoying yourself! GET OUT and do things... even if its just to keep you busy & keep your mind off of your ex. Do something you've always wanted to do... a hobby or travel. Now is a great time to spend with your girl friends (before you are tied down again). There is so much out there... LIVE LIFE!
2006-07-12 05:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by .·:*RENE*:·. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate to your feelings, hun. That was exactly what happened to me too. I broke up with my bf of 4 years over 2 years ago, and on that night it was the end of the world (or so I thought). I called it quits because of our long-distance and his family. Today I don't feel as much pain, but the scar is still there because we were each other's first love. You just have to give it time, and think of all the reasons WHY the relationship didn't work. Everything happens for a reason, and I truly believe that it's only for the best. Can you not think of anything positive that turned out since the break-up? You said you gave it your all, and that's all it counts! You shouldn't have any more regrets. Learn something from this: you have to move on and find a guy who considers you the most precious thing in the world. Your ex is just not worth your time. I mean, you're there all alone griefing over him...but where is he? He could be out there having his own fun. So why do you need to suffer? I wish you the best of luck. My prayers are with you. Forget about him and put yourself back on the market!
2006-07-12 05:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Angelheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are really all sorts of ways which u can try. Well,a friend of mine tried to delete his no. from her cellphone. And all his emails to her and even asked him not to call her. This, according to her was the best solution so that she can erase every memory of him. But I think it's not the best way.
I think it's all in your mind. If you feel bad and feel like crying, just go ahead. Think i got the idea when i was reading "tuesdays with morrie" or the other book also written by the same author, Mitch Albom. I think it works. Time will heal your pain.
As for me, I always wanted to text him, but all I did was type out the message but erase it in the end. It makes me feel as if I had text-ed him but actually I did not.
I suggest you try to forget him by hanging out with your friends again and keep your social schedule busy. In that way, you do not feel the pinch of being lonely. If your friends are busy, try to indulge yourself by reading some books or listening to music. Find a new hobby. What I find most satisfying is being able to help other people. So, try volunteer work if you can.
All the best!
2006-07-12 05:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by hopeless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet revenge!!
If not on him, then the nearest old lady that smells of mothballs.
If that don't work sit down and compose a list of all the things you disliked about the guy. ie.. his feet stink, he was rude to friends....etc.. You get the point.. And when you are all done with your list take a look at all the bullcrap you are actually giving up..
I say if you had more than 3 things you disliked then you could always do better.. You are destined to have a more perfect relationship. I mean that's what I know..
But again... revenge is the Lord's but God work through people..
Take it out on his car!! vandalize!!
2006-07-12 05:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by ju-ju bean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely get out of the house!!! Call a friend and go to the mall or plan a trip or something. Call an old friend and meet for coffee, someone who won't want to make your ex-boyfriend the topic of conversation. Do something you wouldn't necessarily do when you two were together, something you've been wanting to do but couldn't for the past 4 years. Stay busy.
2006-07-12 05:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by MattEMatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIME is the only cure. That was a long relationship. If you all don't get back together, you will always remember each other for the rest of your lives. But time is all that will help. I'm sorry you are sad. Try to smile a little.
2006-07-12 05:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes time prob is the only thing i have heartache of diff sort today my 18 yr old cat has been sick so i may have to have her put to sleep good luck & God Bless also try to stay busy as not to think of him as much
2006-07-12 05:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by Leveler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember your previous question about your boyfriend. Who broke up with who? Did he seem bothered? You should put your energies elsewhere as if he wasn't giving anything to you he's not worth it. I find buring myself in work helps and anything else that can be a distraction. Stay away from sad movies and watch some comedy movies. May I recommend Team America. gl
2006-07-12 11:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by brian h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing to heal wounds, so they say. Be strong. Go get a massage, buy a new outfit, something to make yourself temporarily happy. Surround yourself with people who love and support you and just hang in there. Easier said than done, but **** happens...life goes on. Good luck, babe.
2006-07-12 05:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing! I broke up with mine not long ago (of two years) it hurts. I try and distract myself with work and school. talk to somebody you trust to. And cry, it helps you release your emotions. I also made a CD of breakup songs I listen to when I am really down to pump me up ("Since U Been Gone", "Survivor" etc)
Don't call him! I was calling mine too, but then I stopped and haven't talked to him for about a month. It's easier to heal that way.
2006-07-12 05:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by moonshadowangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋