What do I do, her step dad is here all the time with her and she wants to call him dad but her real dad to tell me to tell her to stop and pick another name for my husband
2006-07-12 04:56:22 · 16 answers · asked by Aimee T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you have to see it from his point too, That's his daughter calling another guy dad. I wouldn't like it either.
How bout if he has some girlfriend that she wants to call mom, is that ok with you?
2006-07-12 05:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by bassic 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My son is almost 4, and he's been calling his step father "daddy" since he could talk. That's what he is. My son's "bio-dad" is never there and he hardly ever sees him, but my husband has been there since he can remember. If your daughter's father is still very much in the picture.. then tell him, your current husband and your daughter, that having 2 dad's is even more special than 1. Tell your ex to grow up. If his daugher loves this man as though he were her father too then there's nothing wrong with calling him dad. A dad.. someone who takes care of your needs, wants and is there when you need someone.. that's all it is.
2006-07-12 05:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if step dad been there all the time and she want to call him dad. Of course she can. You know why, it shows that real dad never there and never do things with her so that mean Step Dad have done a wonderful job with this girl and treat her as his own Daughter. Tell the real dad well she made the choice and I can't tell her what to do. He been around more time than you do. So You the one who want Divorced not me and I married someone else and you now upset she call step dad "DAD".... well live with it......
2006-07-12 05:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with him. Your ex is the father of that child not the new step dad. She should call him by his first name. If that was my child I would put a stop to that. That child has only 1 father, your ex husband.
2006-07-12 05:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is her father. There is a big difference between being a father and a "dad"!!! As a step father if I heard the twins real father object to them calling me their dad I would have real problems with that and would let him know in no uncertain terms. MY twins are now 4 1/2 years old and I have been with them since they were 9 months old. I am the one who changed their diapers, calmed their fears, nursed their illnesses, thaught them their ABC's, to tie their shoes. I am the one who wiped their noses, bandaged scraped knees and took care of them on a daily basis.I cook their meals and taught them to clean up afterwards, scrap their plates in the garbage and put dirty dishes in the sink. If your present husband does the above then he is their "dad"
2006-07-12 05:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the record...
Any male with an operational set of genetalia can be a father. Anyone with a sperm count can procreate with a woman.
Daddy is a title that must be earned. Daddys are the ones that tuck their kids in and spend time with them and kiss away boo-boos and would lay down their very lives for the children they love above all others on earth.
Daddys feel guilty when they're not able to do these things. Daddys try twice as hard to make up for the things which they lack.
Daddys make sure that the first words that come out of their mouths in the morning and the last words that come out of their mouths as their kids go to sleep is "I Love you".
2006-07-12 05:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your ex, or baby father should learn how to be there for his child and then your new husband won't be called daddy. the father of my 3 kids are a bum and now my husband is being called dad and he feels honored because he supports them and lives with them.. tell
2006-07-12 04:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this for years... have the kid call your husband by his name until they get to school age and by then they should be old enough to decide by themselves have a sit down with her you and your husband and ask her. don't show any bias one way or another because it's not about how you, your husband, or the father feels it's about her. If she chooses to call him dad, your ex has to respect it.
2006-07-12 05:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends , is the father a active person in her life? if he is ,then yeah that is reserved for him... i have 2 kids from a previous relationship and i have 2 step kids from my relationship now, my kids call their step father by his first name, the same with my step kids, they call me by my first name, but at first they wanted to call me dad because they hear my kids calling me dad, i had to sit down and talk with them about it,letting them know that they had a dad( even though hes a piece of crap) and that it might not be such a good idea to call me that because that would upset their dad.....hope this was clear enough for you and hope it helps...
2006-07-12 05:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by nate diggitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blended families are great!!
The child gets to call who she wants to call dad "Dad". One of my step-children call me and her biological dad "Dad" and the other calls me by my first name. Whatever makes them more comfortable.
2006-07-12 05:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋