I am a single parent and his father was in jail most of my son's life. so I at times let his father take him to spend the night out at his house becauseI feel, maybe now that he is situated that he could show his son some love. We argued the other day and his father had the nerve to say that my son doesn't love me because everytime he drops him off he doesn't want to leave his father. My son was hearing our conversation and he was upset and stated to me that he didn't love me. After he cooled off he hugged me and i asked him if he loved me and he said yes but i don't....
Confused please help.
2006-07-12 04:54:04 · 6 answers · asked by Cookie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I like you have raised my children on my own for most part.
It is not an easy task. As the sole provider of all his/her needs you try to do what is best for your child/children. The fact that your son wants to spend more time with his father is not a reflection on his love for you I believe it is more of a statement of his lacking the guidance from his father. Being with you 24/7 he knows his boundaries and limits. Spending time with his Father is an escape from rules and regulations. We as single parents tend to be the heavy the enforcer of all rules. I truly believe that your son felt his (free time) threatened by the argument between your ex and you. And in his young mind wanted to stand his ground in front of his Dad. He is caught up in this situation as much as you are and at his tender age he reacted the only way he knew how. I am sure he loves you with all his heart and soul. His coming to you with a hug and kiss after the fact is proof enough. We are all caught up in the heat of what we are confronted with form time to time. The positive thing about this occurrence is that he felt it in heart to come to you and communicate his regret for how he treated you and to let you know that he does in fact LOVE YOU. Try to remember, “ Be fast to listen, be slow to speak, and be slow to get angry”. As far as your Ex telling you about your son not wanting to leave him…
Maybe he should take that as sign that he should take the role of being a father a bit more seriously. Maybe he needs to instead of just showing your child a fun time he should offer the guidance of a DAD.
Be strong the end result is worth any heartache you may have to endure. This child is a part of your being. He was existent within you before the rest of the world set eyes on him. HE LOVES YOU!!!!!
2006-07-12 05:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by on_a_quest_for_friends 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I don't know that a child can 100% mean what they say or know how they exactly feel. I doubt that he loves his father more than he loves you but he may not love him any less, either. Little boys look up to their fathers. It could be that since the father and son do not have a stable relationship, he is trying to impress the father or something of the sort.
Perhaps you should seek professional help. There would be nothing wrong with this at all! If it is bothering you, seek help!
2006-07-12 12:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son probably just said that because he heard his Dad say it.
You need to tell your husband to stop using your child as a pawn , it will only hurt and confuse him more.
I wouldn't worry about him loving you. ( son ) But I also wouldn't ASK him if he did or not. Don't make him think that love is an option. He's too young to comprehend that.
Just keep telling him how much you love him, and don't talk bad about your husband in front of him. You could make him resent you for that later in life.
Stay calm with him. He's been with you most of the time. You are the one that has the most influence on him, so, he will learn more from you, not your husband.
Good luck !
2006-07-12 12:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can ur son love his father more u were with him most of his life don't put ur self down he loves ya both
2006-07-12 12:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nice boobs
2006-07-12 12:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some therapy for you, and your kid
2006-07-12 11:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋