Serious question time?

Question

Re: all the recent child abuse cases, and how the 'victims' recover and go on to lead a 'normal' life - was anyone (else) abused as a child, and enjoyed it? Yes i am serious. My abuse started at 9, with intercourse starting at 11, and carried on til i was 15. I don't know whether the experience 'harmed' me, but i do know that ever since i have had a voracious sexual appetite, and many, many sexual partners. I would appreciate genuine answers, as i cannot believe that all abused children derive no pleasure whatsoever

Answer 1

Because of your early sexual abuse, you have a distorted view of what a healthy sexual relationship should be. (hence the multiple partners) Your voracious sexual appetite is because you define yourself according to your sexuality rather than your humanity. You may not feel that this is a problem, but if you ever wish to have a normal monogamous relationship without sexual conflicts in the future, you might want to seek a therapist who can help you deal with any possible suppressed emotions that linger in your subconscious

Answer 2

The fact that you were 9 when this began means you were harmed, a 9 year old has no concept of why he/she enjoys the feelings being experienced. You were forced to grow up early at 11 by intercourse taking place, you had no say in this, even it carrying on until you were 15 was not in your control, but I guess at 15 you knew why it was pleasurable.
What concerns me is the amount of sexual partners you have had since. I think you should ask yourself if you are still being abused by these people, and why you feel the need to have sex with them. Whether you believe this or not, your childhood thinking was skewed by these events. I would guess whoever your abuser was, they told you not to tell anyone, they may have threatened that you would be taken away, not be believed or something would happen to your family. Whatever control they had over you, they may still be controlling you.
Too many children are sexually abused, many by family members or family friends in a position of trust, and yes it is true that some children do have pleasure during the abuse, but for many this is a source of guilt and makes them recount the abuse every time they try to have a relationship with a loving partner.
Hope this helps to put thing into perspective.

Answer 3

As a terribly abused person as up to and including today I can say I have had similar experiences. I enjoy seeing enemies fall into antiquity and chaos as I have undermined their existence for harassing and or doing things to me. I rage in a way that no one can understand and take no action to harm people but place wheels or mechanisms in motion to crush my enemies.

The sex thing you mention is based on the fact that you were taken at an early age and you body was trained to like it one way or the other.

I never thought I would feel any pain in my life due to surviving hundreds of fights and others forms of oppression. What killed me as a person and made me have a break down was when My X-Girl friend what I thought to be wife had an abortion thus killing my babies, pretty cool. A total mental breakdown and I was so mad my heart went into defiburlation. Anyway I died and came back another interesting story.

If you feel it you will likely never recover, I do not feel heat or cold, I am hungry I can not be hurt under normal circumstances, and if one more person puts there hands on me illegally I will likely invert their elbow. Also I haven't really spoke to anyone in about a year I am tired of people who are stupid, which is most of the population.

Watch FAlling Down the movie.

Answer 4

I would guess that your experience is the exception rather than the norm. It's sketchy that psychology could 'prove' that your abuse caused your current voracious appetite, so I would avoid the belief that this abuse could be good somehow. Keep in mind that there are hundreds of abuse cases annually and even more that go unreported. Pleasure or not, it's rape. Don't underestimate the trauma that this abuse has caused.

Answer 5

While many have such an appetite, it cannot be said they enjoy even that. That may make them feel even worse about themselves. A lot of people who were abused grow up like that, but some of them think it's because they are already "bad children" (if they are still kids) or because they feel that they're worth nothing more. But for the most part, it's still harmful because it was a type of abuse that took the love out of the act.

Answer 6

It is very common that children who are abused do experience pleasure, which can become a source of guilt and confusion because they then feel that they are to blame or agreeing to what is happening to them, despite the fact that they have little control against the pressure from an adult or older person. The body is made to experience sex as pleasurable, no matter what age, but until a person is emotionally and psychologically mature, they are not able to handle it or really know whether they want it or not; which is why it is abusive for adults to force or encourage children to have sex.

Answer 7

Well if it was truly enjoyed then I don't think it could really be viewed as abuse. But I mean are 11 year olds really mature enough to be able to make a decision about intercourse? Sure they can physically feel good, but is it right and are they complex enough with their thinking processes to be able to know and accept having sex with a much older man? If you are saying that you were abused and that it felt good when he did it, then I can completely understand that. Rape and abuse victims very often can obtain pleasure from the sex act and even have orgasms, because much of the time these are involuntary actions. But if you're saying that at the age of 11 you were able to accept and welcome intercourse then I don't think that's right. Good luck.

Answer 8

Just because a child is sexually abused, does not mean that the abuser actually caused them physical harm. I guess the child could have liked it, but the fact is, IT WAS WRONG. It did cause you mental issues....look at what you are doing. Having a lot of partners is not healthy and is a very common after effect of a child who was sexually abused in the past. I am very sorry those things happened to you, please remember it was wrong and very unfair to you.

Answer 9

I was beaten but not sexually abused.but the stigmata of sexual abuse is that alot of times -it is enjoyable-you still have all the "feel good" buttons and the adults can make you feel that you are special to them,then the child ends up feeling dirty for doing and enjoying it. I know I didn't enjoy getting hit but its given me the "if it doesn't kill me it will make me stronger" attitude -i couldn't have lived without.As for the many many partners are you sure your doing it for the pleasure and not just to feel accepted and special in the only way you may know how?

Answer 10

Oh God, I've tried to answer this question 10 times now, I am and always will be, confused by what happened to me as a child. Was it all bad? Like the questioner I'm uncertain, but it altered me, fundamentally changed me, into who I am now, and if that is god or bad....I'm not sure. I, unlike the kids of today, had no where to turn, but would I have, given the opportunity? I may have, but not always. I'm sorry, I tried, I cannot tell anyone. I'll keep it in my Pandoras box, the way I always have. So, why did the arents of those kids, knowing his history, send their kids to M Jackson? Should some of them have been imprisoned? You who ask this question, are you not fundementally altered by your experiences? Who would you be, but for Chester the molestor?