First Kiss, when should it happen?

Question

this is my first boyfriend, and we still haven't gone on our first date yet, even though we have been boyfriend and girlfriend for like a month. well anyways, i don't want to rush it or anything. should i let him decide when it is the right time or should i make the move first? just would like to know, and by the way, he is 15, and i'm 14. maybe this might help in deciding which one of us should make the move first.

Answer 1

My son was 15 when he met his current girlfriend. Like you, she was 14. Now he is 16 and she is 15. The girl comes from a great family that has taken my son in like one of their own. They take him everywhere. When we go places, we take his girlfriend, too.

This has worked out well for more than a year and a half. They get to see each other often and they are in a somewhat supervised situation so that we as parents don't have to worry about them getting too "close" quicker than they need to(if you know what I mean!).

I believe that you can be boyfriend/girlfriend without actually going on a real "date". Just take things slowly. Kids grow up way too fast these days. Just enjoy each other's company and don't feel pressured to keep up with what your friends are saying that they do.

I did not have my first kiss until I was 16. I know my son and his girlfriend kiss, but he's not here or I would ask him what his advice would be.

As an adult female, I always liked shy guys. As a result, I almost always ended up being the one who made the first move. I think alot of guys appreciate a girl who takes the pressure off of them by making the first move. How about just talking to your boyfriend about it? These days, more than ever, open communication needs to be a huge part of any sexual relationship. Just be honest about your feelings when it comes to kissing. If you want to kiss him, just make a silly comment about it when you are out having fun or passing each other in the hallway at school and see how he reacts.

I remember as an adult, passing a note to a guy at work that said "I'd love to know what it is like to kiss you!". I just handed it to him and smiled. Worked like a charm and it was less than a week before I got that first kiss from him. Turned out to be the best kisser ever, too! Yum...

Chances are that if he has not kissed you yet, he's either inexperience or just plain nervous. Or maybe he is worried that you might think he's being too forward. If you let him know that you are interested, that will give him the opportunity to gather up all of his nerve and make a move.

At any rate, I hope things go as you would like them to go. I've been married 18 years, but I can still remember how exciting young love can be. Best Wishes!

Answer 2

I have a question. How are you boyfriend and girlfriend if you haven't even gone on a date? That's what boyfriends and girlfriends do. They're supposed to be really good friends, that spend time together and go out to dinner and movies, bowling, etc...And at some point the relationship will get physical with kissing and such...Considering that you're 14 and he's 15, I don't think there's anything wrong with having your first kiss. Just be careful of how quick things move afterward. I think you should talk to him and ask him to take you on a real date. Or better yet, why don't YOU take him out on your first date and perhaps you can be the first to kiss him! There's nothing wrong with the girl making the first move as long as you're comfortable with it. Some guys are relieved when the girl makes the first move because it takes the pressure off of them.

Anyway, good luck with everything!

Answer 3

No, you do not want to rely of the man's judgment about you. You just can't tell about a guy from the way he looks, spends or kisses. You must keep control of the situation without being a bully or just a plain unpredictable character.

But talking is good because you have to be able to talk to each other for many years if the relationship works, and getting to know each other is more than a good thing. Of course, many guys will want to get down to business right away at every turn, but remember attracting and keeping a guy's interest are two very different skills or abilities.

But, you can not trust a guys instincts about sex until you know him well. After you have him pegged, then you make the move but allow him to think he may have started it.

Answer 4

SWEETHEART.........YOU WILL KNOW WHEN IT IS THE RIGHT TIME...I'M SURE HE WILL MAKE THE FIRST MOVE UNLESS HE IS REALLY SHY....BUT DON'T RUSH IT...JUST LIKE THE NEXT QUESTION THAT I'M SURE IS ON YOUR MINE....WHEN IS IT RIGHT TO HAVE SEX? WELL THAT IS TOTALLY UP TO YOU....YOU ARE THE GIRL AND YOU CAN SAY NO ANYTIME...YOU WILL KNOW WHEN THE TIME COMES FOR THAT TOO....JUST DON'T RUSH ANYTHING....LIFE IS TO SHORT AND YOU DON'T NEED TO GET HURT BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU HAVE TO DO THESE THINGS NOW.....IT MAY TAKE YOU GUYS A FEW MONTHS BEFORE IT WILL FEEL RIGHT FOR YOU....YOU MAY NEVER WANT TO KISS HIM....YOU WILL HAVE A FEW MORE BOYFRIENDS BEFORE YOU FIND MR RIGHT SO TAKE YOUR TIME AT IT......

Answer 5

If you haven't even gone on a date yet, he is not your bf and you are not his gf. You're just 2 kids who know each other.

Save the kissing for your first real boyfriend :-)

Answer 6

I think if he is responsible and you have been together for a month, you should let him make the move if he is very-intereted in you. Don't get me wrong if he doesn't make the move he isn't interested, he probably doesn't know what will happen. Talk to him, that's what couples di!

Answer 7

It's when you both think the time is right. Whatever you do, don't rush it. My first kiss wasnt until I was 16

Answer 8

haha aww thats cute. just so you know, the average age that people lose their virginity in america is 16. haha you've got some catching up to do.
but seriously speaking, let him make the move. if you're the more outgoing one, you should do it. but don't do it in a romantic moment (its too used). do it out of the blue. trust me. what you should do is, grab the front of his shirt while he's in the middle of sentence. he'll like that more. heck, i liked it a few years ago

Answer 9

When the time is right it'll happen naturally. Take it slow, you have a life time ahead of you & kissing usually leads to other things that you really don't want to happen.

Answer 10

You should not allow him to decide what if he does and your not ready then you might hurt his and your feelings. Take things slowly the right time will just pop up and you will feel and know it, always proceed with caution.