my husband has bein lying to me about what he does on line and i just wanted the truth but even though i dead busted him,he is still lying to me.i feel like if another woman can get him i don't need him.14yrs.married next month.I HATE THIS
2006-07-12 04:40:53 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had the same problem, and I had a daughter involved. Your options? #1 Go to a counselor (a good one) for marriage counseling together and bring up all that bothers you..it does work for some people if you find a great counselor. #2 Leave him or #3 Stay and be miserable. When you think about it...those are your only choices. Divorce is a hard hard thing. But, my life is so much better now. I cant believe I ever put up with that crap. And now I am blessed with a man whom is my best friend, my everything and we never argue, never doubt one another, never get tired of one another. Thats how it should be. You can do better if he wont resolve his issue. But if you go to counseling..you can say that you tried everything.
2006-07-12 04:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by angelikness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you would feel badly about this. If you know for a fact that he is online trying to meet other women, but he does not even admit it when you confront him, then I would think about booting him. If he can't respect you enough as his wife to admit things when you caught him red handed, then you are right he is not worth it. I would try to confront him one more time and if he lies, then ask him to explain things and show him evidence that you know he is lying. If he still proceeds to lie then I would think about leaving. You don't need to live in a relationship built on lies. I know it is hard and you are feeling bad, but you deserve much better. Nobody needs to live sad and depressed because some guy is not man enough or courteous enough to own up to his lies or mistakes. Good Luck.
2006-07-12 11:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears he is in the beginning stages of on-line porn addiction, or he is pursuing an on-line relationship with someone else. Either way it's not good for the health of your marriage and you'll need to confront him about the lies and see if he takes you seriously...if not, then sad to say, but you need to do something to show him you're serious...either start moving out or talk about separation...if he doesn't fight it then you know what you're destined for anyway. Be realistic in this situation, not idealistic...let logic run your brain cause your heart will just get it more and more hurt.
2006-07-12 11:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by 1n51ght 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do better. If you feel that you can't trust the person in your life that you're supposed to be able to trust 100%, then you should leave. I know it's a difficult decision, but it's best for you in the long run. If you're unhappy now, at least alone you have the possibility of being happy again.
2006-07-12 11:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Defender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady,
I feel you my dearest. I'm not going to tell you to stay with him b/c it's been 14 years, and not even if you have children. Your chidlren want to see you happy. You want to see you happy.
How hurtful is this situation to you? Do you think you can forgive him and move on?
If not, then you should find a way to be happy.
Don't waste happiness, you're not really watsing a marriage.
Life and happiness have no rules, you go with the flow.
My opinion.
Good Luck.
2006-07-12 11:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by fiestygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him -- if you caught him, what are u still doing with him? I went through the same thing. I know how you feel. Get rid of him hon - there are PLENTY of fish in the sea! Don't EVER let a man make you feel worthless or not wanted. Put on your f*** em dress and say " f*** em girl!"
2006-07-12 11:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself do i love my husband or am i in love with my husband. If it is just love for a man you have been married to for almost 14 years and not that you are totally in love with him which also involves the trust issue than maybe you need to get marriage counselling and fce the fact that the fire is no longer there.
2006-07-12 11:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by mrsdamico22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run some personal ads yourself, you will get 50 times the response he gets if you just claim to be slightly 'sensual'. Make sure he sees them. A few can be good catches too. Actually, there's probably no hope for him. Good luck.
2006-07-12 11:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to communicate with him on line do something to but some spice in your marriage if he is lying that destroys trust you know this talk to him maybe together the two of you will find the solution to your problem
2006-07-12 11:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to let go and move on. really dont stay in a bad marriage! not healthy for you. i left my husband several yrs ago AND FEEL MUCH BETTER! MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY ETC! i couldn't deal with the lying either. it's not worth it find happiness.
2006-07-12 11:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋