What does it mean when your husband doesn't wear his wedding ring anymore?

Question

My husband hasn't worn his wedding band in almost 4-5 years now and when asked about it, all he says is that it won't fit anymore. I don't accept that reason. He can always buy a new pair. So I'm thinking not to wear mine anymore either. Your thoughts please. Thanks.

Answer 1

Let him know how you feel. Dont play games like tit for tat. Let him know how much it means to you.

Answer 2

Pick your battles wisely! My husband doenst wear his ring very often, primarily because he cant at work, and because after work theres not really a point in putting it on, I however do get excited when I see he does put it on (usually during the weekend when we go out- and sometimes not at all because he plays hockey). Maybe your husband just forgets to wear it and doesn't see the ring as being the marriage, the more you nag at him the worst your arguments are going to get. Instead why dont you just be happy and make a point in telling him how happy you are when he is wearing it. If you think hes cheating on you, then you have a whole new set of problems besides him wearing the ring, but my bets that he said what he did to you out of anger, not because he is cheating but because your issue lies much deeper then him not wearing the ring, its about your insecurities. Dont ask a question if you arent prepared to hear what people have to say as answers, the issue isnt the wedding ring, the issue is your insecurities with him and the relationship, why are you highlitening what is so unimportant (wearing the ring or not for that matter) and not concentrating on getting yourselves some counselling to deal with the infedelity, do you just tell your husband to go screw off when your mad? (maybe he took that literally , appears he has)...either you need to get yourselves into some counseling to over come the fact hes been unfaithful, or you need to decide whether or not you want to continue being in a relationship with a man who treats you like garbage and cheats on you

Answer 3

The "if he won't wear his I'm not going to wear mine" routine says more about your marriage than the initial issue of him not wearing his ring. This is not the sort of thing that you should have let fester for 4 or 5 years. Act like a grown woman and tell him you want him to wear a wedding band. If he has excuses like money... well... 1) You can get a plain gold band for $100. 2) If he's making excuses perhaps you do have something to worry about, you've known if for five years and... you know the rest.

Answer 4

Take his ring and have it sized for him, then nicely ask him to wear it. Tell him that it makes you feel. Stress to him that it is important because it represents your connection. (I am assuming that this is the reason of course). It may be that he just hasn't gotten around to it. Let me put it to you this way, I am a network engineer, and I need a new case for my CD's that I bring around with me to various testing labs. (the case contains testing software that I use on a regular basis). Now within 2 miles there are atleast a dozen places that I could go to obtain said new case but I never do why? not because it isn't important, but because I never think to do it when I am in a position to do so.

I suspect that your husband is just having this issue, he doesn't connect his wedding ring with you. He doesn't see your relationship as somthing that is negotiable or is symbolized by the presence of the ring. Advise him that it is important to you, and he will respond with either wearing the ring that you have resized or replaced, or he will provide you with more information as to why he doesn't like it and that will give you somewhere togo with your discussion atleast. Oh by the way, i woudln't suspect cheating because before I was married I couldn't get a woman to pay attention to me to save my life. Now when I have the ring off I am invisible, when I have it on? I am a hot commodity... go figure.

Good luck my dear, and good luck.

Answer 5

four or five years not wearing Wedding Ring??????? Lady, If he said didn't fit then he should get ring size. I don't care if he not or what ever, He has change the Vows of marriage have the ring on for light time. I am a male I have a ring don't fit me and my wife went out and got me new one. and it fit. But I sure missed my other ring because it has my and wife name on the ring it said &gene&jennifer& means forever never break.

I am try to find someone who can fix my size ring. I want my first ring becasue that is my imporant ring from 1997. I don't want it different.

If you got him ring fix or get him new one and If he still not wearing ring something is wrong! That is so disrespect for a person. I understand if my wife forget sometime put it on but 4 or 5 years no ring... somethign wrong I think he seeing other women I could be wrong who knows.

Answer 6

neither of us were ours much anymore. we try to make a point to wear it on special occasions but even then we forget.
It bothered me that my husband wouldnt wear it at first, but he's an electrician and well, he cant. I guess if you suspect the reason for your man to not wear it is anything more than the size, then talk to him about it. If its really too small, tell him you'll fix it bc you'd really like him to wear it.
I wouldnt suspect cheating - I hear that the ol' wedding ring is a chick magnet! so if he's cheating, he can do it with the ring on or off!

Answer 7

I know a lot of men don't like to wear their wedding band. Not because they don't want to show that they are married, but because they just don't like wearing jewelry. Especially if they have a job working with their hands. I wouldn't be upset over something so simple. Not wearing your ring because he's not wearing his is child's play. Just ask him if he would wear a ring if you bought him another or have his re-sized. Simple solution....

Answer 8

Tell him how it makes u feel. Be honest. Don't stop wearing urs b/c u feel his response is stupid. Just talk to him first.

My dad wears his still but, my mom doesn't. That still doesn't mean they love each other less. My mom's ring wont fit on her finger so she doesn't wear it. She's not much for jewelry either.

Just talk to him before u do anything irrational.

Answer 9

He might be right in that his finger has gotten fatter, maybe you feed him to good. My husband has never worn his ring because of his job but I would love to buy him a better Titanium one.

Answer 10

Your right don't wear yours. My husband tried pulling the"i can't wear it when I'm at work bs" so I took mine off too, and a couple weeks later he put his back on cuz he knew I was tryin to prove a point.

Answer 11

my husband was married before and took his off and he said he never worn,it again and there not married anymore
.but he wheres his now and has never takeing it off,and we have been married for 4 years now. the only time he took it off was at work,one day so he didn't get cement in it but before the bell rang at work he had it right back on.