He says..."You r not pretty, u're not smart, u're not sexy, but still u're the one for me, and u're special to me.....the girls who r pretty sexy n smart r nothing infront of u"
now tell me...shud i get hurt...or shud i be happy???
2006-07-12 04:17:45 · 25 answers · asked by SARA H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he said you're not pretty but he didn't say you're ugly. He said you're not smart but he didn't say you're dumb. He said you're not sexy but he didn't say you're a pig. He's just telling you that even if you're not perfect, you're special. When he said you're not the best, it doesn't mean your the worst. Yes you should be happy he chooses you over those perfect b*tches.. (",)
2006-07-12 05:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by fran 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try something similar on him and see how he feels about it.
I'm sorry but sometimes I just can not stand people who put you down to compliment you. Obviously it does not feel right to you that's why you ask this question. You know I'm sure he means well, right and loves you,but if possible get him to change the record.
You should be happy though he gives his feeling some form of expression. He loves you but his expression is warped.
Virgoqueen is right. It is a form of emotional abuse. Its a manipulative thing that possessive people do. Make you think you can do no better than themselves.
2006-07-12 04:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! that's hurtful and rude! Can't he tell you that he loves you without actually having to put you down at the same time? He's essentially saying that you're ugly, dumb and sexually unappealing, but he likes you. I guess if the only thing you care about is if he likes you, then you are set. I personally want to be with someone who DOES find me sexy, smart and attractive. I think you should find that. You don't need the put downs.
2006-07-12 04:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say -you don't need him! if he loved you he would find you sexy/smart etc (beauty is in the eye of the beholder) lets face it- would you be with someone you didn't find attractive?regardless of whether anyone else found them attractive!
Seems like he wants to control you, telling you what you're not will make you need him more as you will feel that you can't do better, that you should be grateful that he likes you!! he wants power over you-tread carefully -be careful,there is someone for everyone,you need someone who will make you feel special-they're out there somewhere. Beauty comes from within and from your own confidence.
2006-07-12 05:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Unknownanon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he would NOT say those things to you. That is disrespectful and when you are in love with someone you see them as beautiful, sexy etc no matter how the rest of the world sees them. Sorry to say but move on - there are plenty of guys that will think you are beautiful etc and tell you. Good luck.
2006-07-12 04:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by SingleHotMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being disrespectful and by telling you all the things you are not, he will convince that you are not. Thereby, keeping you will him, because he's convinced you that no one else wants and ugly, dumb, unattractive girl. You should wonder why he thinks this is perfect for him. He thinks you aren't going anywhere.
This is emotional abuse and you should think more of yourself. There is someone out there that will love you and never put you down. You can't be with that person if you stay with that loser. Take care of you.
2006-07-12 04:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably be happy, at least he is not telling you the usual "I love You" just to use you and dump you, you know exactly where you stand and exactly how he feels. If he thinks you are special to him then you stand a good chance of being treated decent. My hubby wanted a tall thin blonde when I met him, I am short, fat and brunnette. He wouldn't let me go for nothing - its actions that speak louder than words although your fellows words are quite loud.
2006-07-12 04:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by googleymugley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to join in but am a little shaky on the text language. I think I know what you are asking. Are you unattractive, thick and frigid?
If so, you should ask him what it is that he does see in you? A girl can have an inner beauty that appeals to some men. I try to polish both inside and out.
2006-07-12 04:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by Spotlight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he is just having the problem that many men do......and that is.......they don't know how to word things sensitively. He probably means more along the lines of "You aren't a supermodel, or a genius, but you are still the one I love."
Anyways, beauty and smarts isn't what attracts someone. It's more or less the personality.
2006-07-12 04:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm he thinks he's being nice by saying he loves you despite all your many flaws.... thats big of him!
now if it was me i would be slightly hurt by the fact that my bloke dint find me attractive!! but also glad at same time that he still thought i was better than everyone else.........
if your happy with him saying it, what anyone else says doesnt matter, if your not happy with it tell him!
its a tricky one, surely you want to feel sexy and attractive to the man your with? go show him you are jsut as pretty and fabulous as the rest of us! go buy some sexy undies and strip for him!
(sorry if your underage!! lol)
have fun ;)
2006-07-12 04:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by sinnedfairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋