How long have you been married and how do you make it work?

Question

I've been married for 13 years and its going fine.

OH AND- how old were you when you got married?

Answer 1

10+ years. I was 18 when we got married. You work at it every day.

Answer 2

I'm 27 and have been married for almost a year. But dated my husband for 6 years before we tied the knot.

To be honest, the first six months of the marriage were all about learning new things about each other eventhough we've got 6 years under our belt. He is my best friend and I can talk to him about anything. But marriage seemed to change all that at the beginning, I found many things about him that I had not known about. It brought me to worry and overanalyze everything he did.

Now it's smooth sailing. I never realized I had changed into a different person and yet I said he had changed. I think we both did and it's natural and so much easier when it's accepted by the other person. I think we are on a good path and if the future has 'divorce' in store for us. I would not have the heart or energy to do this all over with another man. It's really emotionally draining. I'd rather be an old maid.

Answer 3

been married for 15 yrs and it's going great. It has had it's up and downs but that is married life. You know you have a good partner in life when they stick with you through the rough times. Marriage is just an extension of family and no matter how you try the are impossible to get rid of. The trick is to keep the new experiences coming and there has to be a mutual interest in each other. I know it is easy to say and for some impossible to explain but that is the way it is. You will have to provide more info to really give solid advice because there is no universal formula and every relationship is on a different level. Good topic and would like to hear how you go about resolving this.

Answer 4

Well Hanah, I had been married for twenty years the first time. My ex wanted a change and that change was with her boss. I believed we had a wonderful marriage, as did everyone else, but she thought the grass was greener on the other side. I was 20 when I was first married. When we were the happiest, we had God in our lives. It seemed that He took care of our every needs. Everything changed after she took 5 years off work to raise our kids and went back to work. She spent more time away from the family and church. Now, she married her boss after our divorce was finaled. I have remarried, just last week and believe if we put God and our family first, we will live a long and happy life. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I have been married for 12 years and married at the age of 21. There are a few simple rules to marriage 1. always respect your partner. 2. don't forget to laugh. 3. allow your partner the room to grow and be supportive in the process. 4. Compromise to where both parties win. 5. fight fair when you have to fight. 5. the most important, marry your best friend because people fall in and out of love all the time. However, it is hard to leave your best friend behind.
I think it was George Burns who said that the success of a good marriage is when the two people never fall out of love at the same time.

Answer 6

14 years and together for 18! We were 19 and 21 when we got married. We have always made sure that we have fun and a good laugh even when things are really not going our way (which is most of the time!). The other thing that is essential is talking. In fact it should be TALKING coz communication between the two of you is what keeps the trust. Talking, fun and honesty I would say are the three most important things - oh yeah and of course, Great Sex!!!!!!!

Answer 7

I have been Married for almost 9 years will be in Oct. 31st, 2006. I have 2 beautiful kids. now working on have other baby.

I was 26 my wife was 25. How our marriage works, by learning Trust, Communicate, What best for our Children, We fight but we solve it and learn from mistakes, we learned to go out do things with our kids and all the time we go out for our anniversary we bring our kids because last time we did that and it sure was bored without them and having them with us made our marriage wonderful know thing we can share each other and our kids in our lifes. and We have work hard making money bring home and we made love all the time and sometime we don't.

I have known that She will be the person I spend my life with and My kids will be in my life for a very long time. Kids made us going. Looking forward for 10 years marriage smiling.

Answer 8

We have been married for almost 5 years. When we got married I was 22 and he was 28. The first years was tough we have a blended family so there still are many struggles. We make sure to keep each other first and talk talk talk about everything.

Answer 9

Been married for just 1 1/2 years, and I got married when I was 21 and he was 23. It works (really well!) because of

a. our shared belief in God
b. the support of our friends and family-which includes our church family
c. we're best friends
d. Doing what the book "Five Love Languages" says to do!
e. patience and forgiveness

Answer 10

2 yrs. the first year was hard. But now we are good to go. To make it work we try to communicate as much as possible. Also, we have a rule. We can never (and I mean never) mention the "D" word. (divorce or seperate etc.) It helps. I was 23 when I got married.