hi i wrote a question before about my boyfriend wanking over porn than having sex with me, and i said that i felt like i was being used ,this is because he lives with me and dosnt pay nothing ,dosnt work we broke up a few month ago for about four month and this is the only time he worked because he had to. his parents live around the corner and all his mail still goes there he has never moved his stuff into my house just a couple of clothes this is my first relationship i met him when i was17 he was 27 weve been together for 5 years and when we brake up all i do is want him back hes doing my head in ,once when we broke up i went round to his parents house where he was staying i found a condom next to his tv that had been bought from a toilet ,he dosnt not have condoms and it had just been bought every time i ask him about somthing he goes off at me and runs round to his parents please help me
2006-07-12 03:45:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
See my answer on the other one.
You need to boot him and let him figure out how to get over his problem.
2006-07-12 03:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's just not that into you. He doesn't have to work, and he doesn't have to be held accountable for his actions because he knows he can take advantage of you. Your history proves it.
Hun, cut your losses and move on! Is this what you want for the rest of your life? You're less likely to find someone who is worthy of you so long as you're wasting time with this loser!
Yes, you care for him, maybe even love him. Yes, you will miss him terribly and you'll want him back. But you're stronger than that, you know you deserve more and I advise you to NEVER settle for less.
It's going to take time, possibly even a lot of time (took me a year) to get over such a loss, but I promise it will get easier. Focus on your goals and your needs. Rediscover who you are and what you want. Get out there and start looking for companions that will enrich your life and encourage you to grow and succeed.
This freeloader will never be anything but a freeloader. Once he's done with you he'll freeload off of some other chick. Don't let yourself be a victim to it any longer.
2006-07-12 10:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by Chryss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on being something other than a doormat for guys. You KNOW he's a deadbeat, right? You KNOW he's using you and his parents, right? Do you think he'll change? Maybe when h___ freezes over, right? If that's what you want, keep doing what you've done. I hope you want something more and will seek out those who can be a partner in life instead of dead weight you have to carry. Good luck. It's TOUGH but you can do it.
2006-07-12 10:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't deserve you. I don't know what man who has a supportive gf would act the way he does.If he could hold a job while he was away it seems to me that he should be able to do the same with you. As far as the issue of him watching porn and not wanting to have sex...let that go as well as let him go! You should be glad that he hasn't moved anything over to your house because that will make it easier for you to tell him to leave!
2006-07-12 10:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by ebonishia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really wake up he is 27 years old and he doesn't have a steady job that's trouble right there.If he has more pleasure ******* on porn movies maybe he is using you just to get away from his parents house. He needs to be out of there to by now.
2006-07-12 11:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by sherell212004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is using you. Kick him out and don't take him back. He won't get better so find someone better. There are plenty out there, being a model you should get a lot of guys. Just be picky from now on and let them take care of you not the opposite.
2006-07-12 10:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by Butkusman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him and find a guy that respects you and eventually would have sex with YOU not porn videos. So, you're 22...I'm 17...I'd be there for you if you dumped him...weirdmonkeyspanker@yahoo.com
2006-07-12 10:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. He is not the one for you. You need to find someone who has a job and know hows to treat a woman. Good Luck!
2006-07-12 10:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send his ass packing, better yet, call the police and have them escort his backside out of the house and then get a restraining order. also change the locks at your earliest time!!
then give me a call, you sound like a really hard working on top of things type of lady...your type is rare!
2006-07-12 11:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the SCHMUCK - PERMANENTLY. He's not worth your time (or effort). You can certainly do better. Change the locks on the doors, or better yet - move away from his parents, so you are not temped to check up on him.
2006-07-12 10:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by threeboysmamma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋