he loves me i know that but he said "its been 4 yrs now i think we should do it for the first time. he's 5 yrs older than i am.
2006-07-12 03:36:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Do not let him pressure you into anything. You have to be ready and until then he should not pressure you. If he does he does not love you as much as he says he does. You can also try other things instead of sex, if you are comfortable with that. You will know when it is right for you. Go with your head not your heart.
2006-07-12 03:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by housewives5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, ask yourself. R U ready and matured enough for it to happen? Why I ask you this is b'cos to have sex for the first time, you need to be ready mentally and physically. There is consequences you hv to face should something happen like you pregnant, he leave you after having sex with you, you feel like a dirt in the society and many more. Do not be pressured into doing things that you might regret later. Please think carefully b4 doing it. If he really do love you alot, he can wait no matter how long it takes cos love is something so precious that once it is tarred with unwanted sex, you can never have it back. Think about it.
2006-07-12 03:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by orkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether or not he loves you, you NEED to be ready before you have sex. You can't have a second first time, and you don't want to have any regrets. Being pressured into first-time sex is not a good thing; if you don't feel ready, DON'T. The emotional repercussions of having sex before you are ready can last years.
2006-07-12 03:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by xXPolitically IncorrectXx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really gotta think about it. If hes 5 yrs older than you than he might be ready for things you arent. Just dont do anything you may regret in the future
2006-07-12 04:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by lil momma92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depedns on many things.
1)are you ready?
2)is this the man you want to lose your virginity to?
3)Are you ready to perhaps be pregnanat? condoms are protection, but they can be faulty. My sister had sex once, using a condom, and she got pregant. Those sperm dudes are very stubborn.
5)you need tobe over the legal age of consent, especially if he older than you.
6)as long as you love him, he loves you, and he will neer leave if even you do get pregnanat, then go for it.!
2006-07-12 03:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just think of yourself in his situation, he has been with you for four years, and has held out (unless he cheated), so a little something should happen, but if you are still not ready to take that step then don't, he might get frustrated and leave you, but maybe then you will see if he really loves you or not
2006-07-12 03:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by smile_a_lot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well . . . Wow four years and you haven't had sex that's great! If your not ready then don't do it. This is something you will always remember and you want to feel comfortable and not pressured. So if your not ready then wait if he loves you and he has waited four years I'm sure he can wait till your ready. Just talk to him let him know your feelings about it. Good luck
2006-07-12 06:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by jennifer a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 4 years is a long time to hold out on a guy. Are you engaged? if you love him and want to do it then you should. I have a feeling you wont regret it. But if you want to save it for your wedding night then do that. However It will be a very painful night.
2006-07-12 03:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by AzzGoodAzzItGetz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to? If you do, understand that things will change, and life will be a little bit different for you. Think about what you want to do, not what he wants to do. As a guy, i can tell you that we always want to have sex, so he'll want you later too, if you decide not to do it now.
2006-07-12 03:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know i might sound old but here goes...don't have sex. if ya'll really love each other and get married (if ur old enuf) then what will u have special 4 the wedding night. if u have sex then u dun know all they got and it wont be special on ur wedding night
2006-07-12 04:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋