Picture this... you have a significant other for say 7 years, 6 year old son together, minutes away from buying a house, ready to get married, no major problems, typical couple stuff every so often. Is it normal to go out on a "Girls Night Out" and each time collect number from men and give them hers. Could it be I am living in La La Land or expecting too much by saying this is not acceptable to ME. From what I have noticed from other couples that I know, they will let there mate or husband answer there cell for them if they can't get to it. Or am I just fortunate to know such couples.
Can I get someone’s opinion this?
2006-07-12 03:33:53 · 9 answers · asked by marcaveli32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Very strange indeed.
She doesn't sound like the "settling down" type to me. If she argues that "everyone does this" and you believe it, then yes...
You are in La La Land!
2006-07-12 03:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's see. You have the kid. You've been living together as a married couple for many years. You're buying a house. You're "thinking" about getting married. You're living in La La Land in the sense that you think you can do everything in "your own order" and expect it to all work out. You've been living together without a legal commitment and you've always had the "escape out the back door option" available. Why is marriage going to change this? You don't ask for commitment, why should she give it to you? And at this point, yes, marriage will only be a piece of paper, as old habbits die hard.
2006-07-12 10:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that being friendly with people (e.g., exchanging numbers at a club and talking) is OK as long there is no physical contact. I also don't have any kids and am not ready to purchase a house with my bf of a yr. Your story is different. This person sounds like they are trying to re-live the glory days and that is just sad. Once your in a relationship of your caliber, clubbing with the girls or the boys is unacceptable because of the possibilities that can occur. Why put yourself in a situation that can possibly wreck your home life? Exchanging numbers at this point is not cool, especially if you expressed you don't like it.
2006-07-12 11:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal and I've been married for years and have never accepted a number from a man, nor have I ever given out my number. I think you need to have a serious conversation with your S/O and tell them you are not comfortable with it. If they are not willing to oblige, then maybe it's time to move on.
2006-07-12 10:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out for a girls night out is fine, exchanging numbers is not. If she will not let you answer her phone after 7 years, then you got big problems. I suspect she is walking all over you.
2006-07-12 10:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my world that would be unacceptable! Maybe funny one time for a joke but not giving your/her number out to other men.
That's just wrong and if her girlfriends are in on it or putting her up to it then the whole bunch of them stink!
Do the other girls do it too??
2006-07-12 10:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Papa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, that's pretty suspicious behaviour. I mean... making friends is nice and all, but asking for numbers from other men, especially on occasions when you're not there with her? You should talk to her about this because this smells fishy.
2006-07-12 10:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by psykhaotic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not normal to collect phone numbers... if that's going on you guys are not committed and should step back and rethink things
2006-07-12 10:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK the gyys are giving her their number. What is she giving them??
2006-07-12 10:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋