We are getting married in august. He always denies that he is doing it. I feel bad about privacy but I feel I need to know. How far is he going to take these contacts etc...
2006-07-12 03:25:26 · 33 answers · asked by Rachel A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Trust is one of the most essential elements of a good relationship. If you can't trust him, and he you (by being open with you and not lying), then it's a big red flag for a disastrous relationship. I would suggest with this kind of issue, that he is not serious about valuing you as his future wife and that you'll be making a big mistake if you think he'll change before August. You'll have to accept him for who he is if you want to continue in this relationship, but I'd strongly dissuade you from hurting yourself this way.
2006-07-12 03:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by victorygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this is a serious problem. It's very unlikely that he'll stop, and who knows if he's actually stopped even if he says he has? He's already lying to you about it and that's just as big an issue as his need to persue other women.
This is one of those things that really does tend to escalate. How do you know that he isn't already meeting the women he's contacting? How do you feel about the uncertainty? Is this *really* an issue you want to have to face on a daily basis for the rest of your life? What if you have kids - do you want your little ones stumbling on Daddy's extracurricular activities?
I'd truly recommend sitting down with a marriage councellor AND the evidence you've gathered about his activities to talk about this. If not a marriage councellor, then somebody you both trust and can listen and talk to - maybe a religious figure in your lives (rabbit/preacher/ect).
I'm wishing you lots of luck. I know you love this guy, but his actions don't seem to say that he feels the same about you and the kind of pain that can cause can be terrible. I hope for the best for you and your fiance through this!!
2006-07-12 03:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jinx U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could let him have his privacy. But then you will later begin to disrespect & hate him for it and end up leaving. Because he is not being honest. It is a way for him to cheat with out touching. It will get worse. You could leave him or you could also ask him nicely to go to counsling before you tie the knot. He probaly thinks he is not hurting anyone. He does not realize it is degrating to his partner. You will never know how far he will go until it is done. Then their is no turning back.
2006-07-12 03:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat the S**t out of him!!! That's how we do it in the ghetto...LMAO If he keeps doing something like this, it obviously means he is an obsessed pervert over young -women -on -the -net- naked!!! It's both good and bad. Why is it good? It let's you know that he is not gay and loves women. Why is it bad? If he isn't satisfied with only your body, later on in the future there could be slight chance that he will cheat on you with some fine *** woman. But who knows, maybe he'll quit some day, but you can't really blame him he is a man and he has his needs. Good luck!!!
2006-07-12 03:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by Nigh+mare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that ur not the kind of girl that walks behind his shadows.
U need 2 show him, that ur not gonna marry a man who has no intrested in u.
If he loves u, he be the one asking 2 see u naked not other women.
Get more in his life, have so dirrty fun like.......
1) have dirrty sex in a hott room and ur wearing only a shirt walking his way.
ect. he needs 2 knw ur into him
so he be there 4 u
BUT first tell him ur not gonna be played 4 a fool and the only person he be seeing naked is u and ONLY U!!
2006-07-12 03:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at naked pics online is one thing but talking to women through chat is very inappropriate for someone committed or engaged and is a possible sign that an affair is immanent. We are all human and have the possibility to become attracted to the opposite sex through chatting and having intimate conversations that at first may seem innocent. Therefore to my way of thinking at least you shouldn't put yourself in that position in the first place by not doing it. (Yahoo! Answers not withstanding,ha-ha) I would postpone the wedding at least if you are not sure of your fiance's loyalty.
2006-07-12 03:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by Windseeker_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look within yourself and find the strenght to leave him. If your fiance is playing the field on line there will come a time when he will play the field in real life. Do you want to spend your whole life wondering when and if this is going on? There are good men out in the world that will love, HONOR, and cherish you. Be brave and start a new life.
2006-07-12 03:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you may have gathered already, this is unacceptable and you need to:
1. respect yourself enough to know that he shouldnt be doing this.
2. tell him you know and he cant deny it anymore
3. postpone or cancel this wedding until this issue is resolved.
at first its naked pictures, then its naked girls dancing for him, then its naked girls he touches, then (a few years later) its naked girls in bed with him
2006-07-12 03:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by okiedokey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is doesn't sound like he is serious about getting married if he is doing this now do you think is will stop when your married talk to him ask him how he would feel if you were asking for pictures of men
2006-07-12 03:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by millie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave some naked guys pics laying around for him to find. Otherwise I'd shoot him. Oh, did I say that? If he carries on this way now what makes you think it's going to stop after you are married?
2006-07-12 03:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋