hi can someone please help me im 22 my boyfriend is 32 we have been together for 5 years on and off we never have sex and he looks at porn, its like he would rather look at porn than be with me
its not like im unattractive or anything cause im a model, i feel like im being used .
2006-07-12 02:56:48 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe you are one of the "So skinny you are ugly models" and he thinks if he has sex with you he will break you. Or, he is gay! But then again, Maybe he's just not that into you! Maybe he wants to wait until he is married before he has sex, did you ever think that maybe the guy has some morals. Just because most of the world has a bunch of s*uts and man who*es walking around does not mean that every person is like that.
2006-07-12 03:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by dohm84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being used? For what? If he doesn't have sex with you then what do you have he wants? Money? If you are a 22 year old model then something is wrong if he is masterbating over porn. If you don't have sex at all then he must feel like it isn't fun anymore or it is routine. You might want to talk to him about it. That would be the best way to find out what might be wrong.
2006-07-12 03:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by Butkusman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is addicted to porn and you leave him. If you have been with him for 5 years he should have married you by now. He is 32 years old, so he is not waiting for anything. He may need prayer and professional help. I had a close friend who was married to someone like your boyfriend. Her husband spend hundreds on porn every month and she suffered for years.
2015-07-13 03:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by William 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! r u datin my ex bf or what sista?! cause my ex was the same damn way....had some porn obsession. it made me feel so unattractive and like i wasn't good enough. and i had been w/ the guy for 5 yrs. too. so i ended things with him and it was mostly over porn. cause i found it hidden under his passenger seat, barely leagal magazine, which made me about sick.....and he looked me in my eyes and promised never again cause he saw how torn up i was about it. and by golly he did it again.....had it hidden in the back seat when i had f***** him there the night before. so that pushed me to the point.....plus of the girls email address and phone #'s i had found. i don't know what to tell u really except for be watch out....he's got problems. and don't think it's u girlfriend...it's him!!!!!
2006-07-12 03:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by sunniskies4me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to popular belief.
Sex is not everything.
Does he treat you right? Is he sweet to you?
Do you make promises to eachother?
Do you feel electricity when you're around him?
why are you guys still datijng??
Perhaps he's afraid of the real thing?
Maybe he's trying to get ready for the time he actually does it?
Perhaps you should discuss this with him,
If he isn't really any of the things above than you should seriously consider breaking up with this man....
Ask yourself why you're together, and if you don't get an answer you're comfortable with.. then you probably shouldn't be.
2006-07-12 03:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by eyeheartjake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have been together for 5 years suggests that there is something to save here. However, this issue MUST be resolved as sex is a very important part of a meaningful relationship. I would suggest that you communicate your views with him with the realization that if this persists your relationship with him will be damaged beyond repair.
2006-07-12 03:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by George O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just what you are talking about - it seems pretty common these days because porn is so accessible. It's just easier for him - he doesn't have to take too long or worry about making you come. Try not to take it personally - it happens to the best of us. If you talk to him & he refuses to try to understand where you are coming from (like, buddy, you can do what you want as long as you are pleasing me too!), then if you are very unhappy & there is no change - leave.
2006-07-12 03:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by savagescorpio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is an addiction just like drugs and alcohol. If he is addicted, then its priority will be higher than other things in his life... just like when a drug addict hurts their family, career, etc.
He needs help. But what's worse, he needs to want to get help. And that is where it gets tricky with porn... people know drugs and alcohol are bad for them... but for some reason we give porn a free pass.
Other people on here will suggest things like watching with him, etc. That is not the answer if you are dealing with an addict. When dealing with an addict, you don't delve in with them, you help them cut it out of their lives.
2006-07-12 03:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people look at porn so long that it is the only way they can get off. He has probably been looking at it and jacking off so long that a real woman does nothing for him, you are just there for companionship.
2006-07-12 03:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by shywoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try and spice things up wear something sexy for him I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 29 he watches porn to He*! sometimes I watch it with him but being a woman I know it can get on your nerves him watching other girls on the TV its obvious hes not cheating b/c all he does is watch porn all day you've just got yourself a horny man if you cant beat em join him
2006-07-12 03:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by millie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋