My boyfriend makes me feel like i am nothing and he he put's his ex on a pedestal. I have spoke with him about it and he says it's not true. I am pretty and have a great personality so why am I so jealous?
2006-07-12 02:32:54 · 34 answers · asked by Babygirl86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your boyfriend is playing on your insecure nature sweetheart,, he knows you are very keen on him and is using his ex as a way to make you want him more,,
its one of the oldest tricks in the book..
its called keep them mean to make them keen!!!
the way to resolve this issue is to play the same game,,
tell him that your relationship is getting better and hopefully after another couple of months he might be as good as your last boyfriend in everything you do..
watch the game changing sit back and enjoy,,
lol
ps write back soon and tell me how good the results were
2006-07-12 02:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
When you think that your boyfriend is putting his ex on a pedestal,
go hang out with some of your friends. That might get your boyfriend off your mind.
2006-07-12 02:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by Maddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry the real question u should be asking yourself is why are u still with someone that puts his x on a pedestal and makes u feel like your nothing.. sweetie dont waste your time on a guy like that.. u'll regret it down the road ...
2006-07-12 02:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you sister! I used to have the same problem and I was really getting to me.
I had to put my foot down and I told him that if she was so wonderful what was he doing wasting my time. I told him that I was not gonna play second to anyone and that I deserved more consideration than that. I told him that when he spoke about her in such way it made me feel as if I didn;t deserve such complments and that it was irritating me. I asked him to stop bringing her up into our conversation because I didn't have no interest in hearing how smart, beautiful and educated she is and that he could keep it to himself because I was not intrested in hearing about his past relationship because is none of my bussiness.
He apologized and realized he was hurting my feelings. He claimed that that wasn;t his intentions as I'm also his best friend and he feels pretty comfortable telling me about his life. He also told me that there was no reason for me to be insecure about our relationship and that he would stop the ex-talk.
So far so good, I realized that I was not jeaolus, but rather insecure and afraid that he had still feelings for her and that I was just a past time while waiting to be reunited. It was all in my head, as he is devoted to me, but my low self steem and lack of confidence really get tickled when he speaks about her. I told him calm but firmly how I felt and how his words were affecting me. Thank God we cleared it up!
Check on my previous questions and see if you can find any other information that might be useful to you.
Good luck. Hang in there!
2006-07-12 02:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is an indication that you have insecurities about yourself. If you boyfriend makes you feel like you are nothing, WHY are you still with him? Girl, they are plenty of men out there willing to treat you better I'm sure.
2006-07-12 02:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not jealous. He is the one who has planted the insecurity. (with the ex on the pedestal) It's up to him to make it right..
2006-07-12 02:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was married, I felt that my husband put his ex-wife and ex-girlfiend on pedestals and I was jealous as well. He would deny doing it and explained to me that he was married to me and not to them. You know what?...he WAS with me and loved me, but by comparing me to them (which he did) in such a way that made me feel badly about myself hurt me and certainly did some damage to our relationship because I felt insecure and down on myself. To tell a woman that she is not as slim as another woman or her hair and makeup are not as attractive is not kind.
If your boyfriend is doing something that ultimately hurts you (thus hurting your relationship) you need to tell him so and insist that he stop. You need to explain to him (nicely) that you do not want to hear about the women in his past because it is making you uncomfortable....and promise to not discuss your past with him as well. I am pretty sure he does not want to know that one of your ex's was built like Adonis and a real Valentino in bed !!
If he continues to talk about them to you, then he does not respect your feelings enough to warrant your spending time with him. It is YOUR perception and feelings that matter here - not his - because you're the one being hurt. On his side, he is not with them anymore and has chosen you - that does count for something.
Good Luck
2006-07-12 02:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by PamV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe this is a guy that doesn't know what he had until it is gone. I suggest you show him also because you can't just take his crap and keep thinking it will get better. If he is like this it will be hard to change him. If you leave him you could go back but by showing him you are willing to walk away, it will show him he needs to work harder to keep you. If you make it to easy for him why does he need to work at it?
2006-07-12 03:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by Butkusman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why but most women I have ever knowen are not happy with them selves, they can look at someone they never meet before and want to be like them, there must be a reason that you are with your boyfriend and not his ex- so I guess that says that you have something better than she had, you can get and keep her man, you won, be happy.
2006-07-12 02:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by citisat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intuition is a pain in the butt. If you feel this relationship is threatened, then it is.
Life is too short to spend in unproductive endeavors. If you haven't, confront him and let him know how you feel. If you have, and still feel the way you do, then make a decision. You either enjoy being under appreciated, or you deserve more and end the the relationship.
Magic is either there or it isn't.
2006-07-12 02:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Chronic Observer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blind Love makes a person Jealous. u love him more than anything in this world..right ,
there is not remedy for Jealousy..its normal ..
all the best
2006-07-12 02:37:25 · answer #11 · answered by zy_engineer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋