My husband pays all the bills and gives me money as I need it. I get tired of asking for money. He usually gives me what I want, but I feel like I should have some money which is just mine to do with what I want without having to justify it.
2006-07-12 02:29:43 · 9 answers · asked by Mollyismydog 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well..do you have a job?
That may be the problem you're giving your husband too much control..If you have a job and you allowing your husband to give what he thinks you should have, than you have a problem!
2006-07-12 02:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication. Talk to him. Discuss your feelings about money and power and listen to his feelings about it. Is he afraid that if you have money, you'll leave? Or is this the way his family of origin handled money?
You should have your own bank account that you control. It doesn't have to have a LOT of money in it, but enough that you feel in control of your spending. (and it can be a joint account, if that makes him feel better - that's what my parents did)
It's important that you know how to handle money. What if you outlive him? How are you going to handle your own financial affairs in that case?
Offer to help him with the bills, too. He may not "enjoy" that part of the household paperwork as much as you might think. It will also give you an appreciation for your marital finances.
2006-07-12 10:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say get yourself a part-time/full-time job and use your money to do what you want. Otherwise, sit down with hubby and you both "do the bills" together. Then you can budget your allowance at that time and you won't have to ask. I'd tell him how humiliating it is to ask for money, also. He'll understand.
2006-07-12 09:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either have full access to the joint account or arrange to have an agreed amount as money for you each week/month etc. Money you can spend without needing to justify it.
2006-07-12 10:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why I work. My husband pays all our bills too and I like having my own money. I don't like doing 40 hrs. a week...but I also wouldn't like going to my husband for money either.
2006-07-12 09:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a checking account just for bills, then have a savings account for each of you. As well as a combined one. Whatever is in your savings account is fair game.
2006-07-12 12:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as long as he doesnt question u in what u wasted it in i dont see why u have a problem for asking for the money
2006-07-12 10:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if he will give you a monthly allowance in cash that can be used all for yourself.
2006-07-12 09:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by willinkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously talk about it...put yer foot down
2006-07-12 09:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋