iam a student.i often feel inferior to my classmates as iam not smart and is not good at studies.iam a girl and i feel inhibition to talk to boys.wat shud i do other tan consulting a doctor?
2006-07-12 02:27:57 · 28 answers · asked by sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be yourself and study harder. I'm a school teacher and I got several students who are just like you. Dont talk to any guy, let them come to you. But let them know you want to talk. How ? Smile at them, then turn away. Believe me, it works.
2006-07-12 02:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by sammydavidjr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! theres no need for u to feel inferior because remember every person is unique..now some people manage to grasp concepts more quickly while others require more effort and feel frustrated..or may not have a good memory..when it comes to studies ask urself where ur having a problem..if u hav trouble in studying the best option would be to read through small paragraphs of information and try to grasp it..keep a small spiral notebook and keep note of things as u understand them..it ll help u gain confidence..it will also help u revise..above all do not compare urself to ur classmates..accept urself for ur pace..
about ur problem with boys..first try and get comfortable talking to ur brothers or cousins..and gradually u can make friends with others..try and speak calmly, dont ask too many questions. if u find urself feeling panicked, just smile, think and then carry on the conversation normally
best of luck, smart girl!
2006-07-12 09:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by shamina i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way too when I was in High school. You are you and the sooner you accept that and be comfortable with it, the happier you will feel. Don't compare to anyone but yourself. Each person is individual and has a special place in this world.
:)
If you must compare, then use it constructively - ask yourself: what can I do to make myself not inferior or make myself smarter - study more? (some people have to and it's not related to "smartness" - people learn in different ways). why else do i feel inferior? why am i shy? how can i overcome my shyness? practice in front of a mirror a million times till i get it right? relive what i really wanted to say? lots of ways, you need to find yours. Some ways will work, others won't - you have time right now to adjust and find that way for you.
It took me a long time and lost many years dwelling on that period of time - I did nothing but nothing but worry, fester, etc. for a long time! So, my advice to you is not to do what I did!
2006-07-12 09:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by ami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not inferior to anyone and shouldn't feel this way. You don't need a doctor but it sounds like you could use some friends who care and would make you feel better about yourself. If you're feeling inhibition in talking to guys then maybe it's because they don't know how to relate to you and help you feel more at ease.
2006-07-12 09:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old are you. If you younger than 17 or 18, it is normal to be shy to talk to the opposite sex. It is a sign that you are starting to realize about relationships, but not ready yet to be getting involved with boys. This is all normal and people get into trouble when they don't listen to what their body/minds are telling them and get into relationships they are not ready for.
2006-07-12 09:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by nuclear_science 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God Chick you have to love yourself is what you need. You have to trust yourself. Your beauty ,your brain, and your words. All of us women have times when we feel stupid we all fall behind. I use to be th dumbest girl in my class but I started caring about myself I started believing I can and I will. This is a poem that I have copyrighted:
A WOMENS STRENGTH.
I have too much on my breast, but I'm a strong women and I bear it,
I want to cry out to God for mercy but I am a strong women and I endure it.
having so little has always been difficult but I'm a strong women and I make something from nothing
I am not a goddess but I'm a strong women and my poetry makes me beautiful
WLC
WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL?
2006-07-12 09:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is good at some things and not so good at others, so you shouldn't feel like you need to be good at everything your classmates are good at.
Think about the things you are good at, whatever they may be, and maybe you can find some friends who also like those things. Then you won't feel so bad.
2006-07-12 09:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by JeffyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a research on way of improving your self.
See, Use such question like what is it that others have that i don't have?
Why is it that my performance is rated below average.
What makes me inferior to others and why?
Why am i not the best?
2006-07-12 09:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by MC Digital 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to the root of the problem yourself. why do you feel inferior? figure that out, then stop feeling that way. it's really not that hard. just walkt around with your head held high and put on an air of confidence. fake it. see what happens.
2006-07-12 09:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sunshine,i understand how u r feeling everyone undergoes this situation so this is nothing abnormal remember one thing you are a unique person and are special the way u are so don't worry sometimes guys prove to be better friends than girls really are but i have one suggestion don't cross your limit find a person who will respect the way you are god bless you
2006-07-12 09:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by mahek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋