There is this girl, and we broke up because she cheated on me, then i went out with her best freind. Now she came and apologized and said that she still loved me. Heres the problem....I still love her. Do i stay with the new girl...or do i go back with her?
HELP
2006-07-12 02:01:31 · 17 answers · asked by rockandroll5556 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I didnt mean to put a ? at the top
2006-07-12 02:03:29 · update #1
This is for pan15
I did it out of anger but now i really like her freind
2006-07-12 02:09:07 · update #2
Thanx to everyone for all the help, i appriciate it.
2006-07-14 07:58:57 · update #3
Realize that it is ok to take some time to figure out what you want. Ask yourself what is it about both people that intrigue you? Ask, what is it that both individuals want from you? I’m glad to see you realize what your true actions were. “You did it out of anger,” but started to like this person. Realize how it ended with the one and begun with the other; just how it could lead from here on out. Be honest with both people and tell them how you are feeling. Then listen to what they have to say in response. That’s only fair.
Other questions to ask: How about the level friendship? Is the person close to me like a best bud? Trust and dependability, will it be there? Forgiveness, can I forgive the mistake, have I ever been in those shoes? Do you feel you have the whole story? Are you going with your gut instinct? Will the relationship be healthy and safe, physically, mentally and emotionally?
Life is too short for a whole lot of drama. Make the decision and move on, it will be better than not.
2006-07-12 02:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by day_dae 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't go out with either , especially if the
girl you are dating was sort of a rebound thing.
And by that i mean dating her under a month
out of the relationship.
If she really wants you, tell her this.
"Look im going to take a breather from relationships
for a short while ( a couple months or so ) if she is
still waiting for you then go ahead and give it another try
but keep an eye on her. If she does it again are anything
like unto it ditch her and spend more time single-
single time is important ( no not screwing around n stuff )
I mean being really alone, so you can discover what
you really want out of life and a relationship.
Never settle for less than you deserve. Dont ever
let a woman treat you like junk and that goes
vice versa as well.
2006-07-12 09:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe a relationship is over once a person cheats. You have to consider what was going through her mind when she did it? I don't buy that "heat of the moment" crap. People have self control when they really want it. When you want someone more than anything, you don't have sex with other people. I cheated once and it took me years to forgive myself. My boyfriend at the time had no idea until I confessed and suggested we parted ways. We're still friends, nothing more.
Now, you're with someone you don't love, right? You need to put the brakes on that before things get more intense. You don't want to hurt the girl you're with now. Don't be a needy guy. There is nothing wrong with taking a break from dating to collect yourself. If you then decide to give the ex another chance, it will be under better circumstances.
2006-07-12 10:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right. Do you think she will cheat on you again? I say go for it and good luck!
If you been going out with the new girl for a short time, like a week or so, try telling her the situation, hopefully she will understand ^^ Also, think about your feelings toward the new girl, do like her as a friend? or more? This is something you need to sit down and think about, and it's ok to ask your ex for some time to think, she should understand.
2006-07-12 09:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by sailorsolarstar1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peope who cheat have the tendency to repeat the cheating again...but...if you really love her that much...there is nothing wrong to give her a second chance.
Before you do that, you make sure you know what you're about to do, coz it means you are ready to be hurt again if she cheat on you again...
But if she really loves you like she told you, I guess you'll end up being a perfect couple!
2006-07-12 09:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by belle_chocolatiere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do neither. Better be alone first and think it through. Have some gap time, if you still feel the same way for your first girlfriend and she understands and is willing to wait, then why hurry. But, dont go from one nest to another. I have experienced this before and believe me you will hurt them one way or another. Take it slow.
2006-07-12 09:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Joy RP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still love your girlfriend and believe me, years from now you will be loving multiple girls. and although it may be true that she does love you (considering you were a couple) she doesn't respect you. love doesn't allow you to hurt the one you love. it allows you to grow. she only wants you back because the grass looked greener on the other side and she found out quickly that he was just fertilizer and he shitted on her cause he wasn't lookign for a relationshop. now that she see's that, she wants to run back to her safety net (which is you) but if that guy wanted to be serious with her you would be sitting there crying your eyes out because she would be blowing in the wind like bad trash. so my advice to you sir is, you tried, you got played, you moved on, so don't look back just because she singing you a sad song. if you want to hear sad songs, turn on the radio and turn her off.
2006-07-12 09:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by hippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cheated on u and it may happen again, ok
But your new girl, u can safely belive that it will not happen until u catch her. So why live in a situation where deep down ur heart u will now and then worry is she cheating u.
So stay with ur new girl
2006-07-12 10:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Ashish Das 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she cheated on you, than you are not the one for her, she's still looking for mr. right, and sorry you're not him. Been there done that, glad i moved on. You are better to dump the rebound girlfriend too, its heading no where, BELIEVE me.
Anything that starts in the summer should end in the summer, wait till the fall to find the "right " one.
2006-07-12 09:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by noahsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, if she loved you she wouldn't have cheated on you. and how funny that after you date her friend, she wants to get back together. i say stay away from her, sounds to me like she doesn't know what she wants. if you quit seeing her friend and get back together with her she'll probably cheat on you again. don't do it.
2006-07-12 14:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by Birdlegs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋