I have had a boyfriend for the last 2 years that I am crazy about, he really is perfect for me. So my question, is it wrong that I still want to keep in contact every once in a while with my ex-boyfriend's parents? I was only with this guy for about 6 months and he lives across the country now. I rarely speak to him and I feel like have a greater connection with his parents than I had with him. These are people who I don't want out of my life but I'm afraid it will create conflicts with my boyfriend. Can this be understood or should I cut the ties?
2006-07-12 01:48:25 · 15 answers · asked by moonshadow385 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have had a boyfriend for the last 2 years that I am crazy about, he really is perfect for me. So my question, is it wrong that I still want to keep in contact every once in a while with my ex-boyfriend's parents? I was only with this guy for about 6 months and he lives across the country now. I rarely speak to him and I feel like have a greater connection with his parents than I had with him. These are people who I don't want out of my life but I'm afraid it will create conflicts with my boyfriend. Can this be understood or should I cut the ties? I truly have no feelings left for this ex-boyfriend and when I see his parents they don't badger me about getting back with their son or anything.. they respect that I am in a different relationship. The only feelings I have for this ex is hope that he can find happiness in his life and that's the end of it.
2006-07-12 02:08:43 · update #1
It sounds like you like his parents and they like you and it has nothing whatsoever to do with your ex. Explain this to your boyfriend. If he knows you love him and he trusts you, I don't think he should have a problem with it. If you don't want these people out of your life it must be because you truly like them for the people they are, not because they are the parents of your ex. If this is truly the case, there is no reason not to stay in touch with them. (but not him). I had a wonderful relationship with my in-laws that I continued after I divorced their son.
2006-07-12 02:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you keeping in touch with them to find out what's going on in his life? Parents will tell you whether you ask or not. If you are truly just friendly with the parents with no ulterior motives, these people were your friends first and you should be allowed to maintain that friendship on that basis. Now when the ex is included that will be a different story.
2006-07-12 01:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd be genuinely effortless with you ... often times holding that courting should be good .... yet to boot undesirable at situations ... as u suggested "I do have a boyfriend now. He pretends it would not worry him yet i imagine it does" .. likely it does ... I genuinely have a bf ... nicely kinda fiance now ... we've been jointly a year and lengthy handed by ability of a lot ... now were searching ahead to our 1st toddler that's due in January 2007 i often times see my ex's mom .. and we've espresso inspite of ... my bf is nice about it ... he's conscious why i nevertheless refer to her and he respects that at situations .. yet others he hates it ... and that i'll understand from a men standpoint why he would not like it ..... i imagine what u opt to do .. is sit with your bf . clarify what your ex's kin's executed for you and why u nevertheless stay round with them and word how he feels about it .. because to be effortless if my bf frolicked such as his ex girlfriends moms and dads and stuff identity would not like it both ... identity imagine alot of issues .... maximum acceptable element is to tone it down ... make it an occasional element and word how your bf now feels about all of it yet have a straightforward heart to heart not . hunny i'm superb with it ... ok toddler i replaced into purely checking . and then go on your marry ol way ..purely get solutions tell him u sense like its bothering him .. get the reality and artwork some thing out. Tamz
2016-11-01 22:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know whatever you tell them will get back to your ex. Maybe go out to lunch one time and explain to his parents that you can't do this again, but you appreciate seeing them. Otherwise you'll be going out with them constantly and it'll get messy. The past is unfortuantely, the past. You have to let go and move on. My ex boyfriends mom still sends me emails and I broke up with him 4 years ago - so I know what you're going through. I've stopped replying. Sometimes she sends a message just to say hi and tell me what's new with him. I just ignore them now and hope she gets the hint.
2006-07-12 02:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-26 01:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the ex-boyfriend is totally out of the picture, talke to your current boyfriend about the situation. If he feels uncomfortable w/ you having lunch, etc. with them, maybe you could cut it down to a Christmas card basis.
2006-07-12 03:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't see why not. I mean, sure, you should make sure that your husband/boyfriend is okay with it (which I doubt he will be, but you never know). If these are good people, I say go ahead and go, but, if they are going to be ignorant and pester you with the question of "Why did you leave our son?" every three seconds, don't go.
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2006-07-12 01:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by lord_anara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is he out of you life is it because of the distance that is between you two or did he find someone new. if he have found someone new and you are using his parents to keep up with him no leave them alone for it will only hurt you in the long run.but if you just likes his parents and do not talks about him then is OK to keep seeing his parents if they agree.
2006-07-12 01:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by bigdaddyleon2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should cut the ties not a good idea if you are not with the guy anymore
2006-07-12 01:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if things don't work out well with him, why would u keep in touch with them? there is no point, i think it can create conflicts with your bf. if he wanted you to be part of that family, u could have been all together now.
sorry, i don't know how your realtionship with your bf is.
2006-07-12 01:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by yonka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋