I've heard that once they have a child together they will always care for her. Is this true? Are there any guys out there that can say that yes they will always care for her or no they don't care for them anymore.
2006-07-11 23:07:48 · 12 answers · asked by Sharon P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes,but since the mother of my children is a lying parasitic whore,the feeling is hate.
2006-07-11 23:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by Troy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not worry yourself about that, what ever will be will be.
IF the man you love, has children and that means that the mother will be a part of the childrens life,, THINK ABOUT THAT,, IF they are divorced, or permantly seperated, as lovers. However.it is over, and he is with you. IT IS A REAL GOOD SIGN IF HE SHOWS RESPECT, AND EVEN A MODEST INTEREST IN HER AS A PERSON, IF HIS X IS OK PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY, THAN chances are she will be a stable mother, for his children, and he can relax and be grateful,
it is really hard when you are in love so deeply with a person that has theses
attachments, GET OVER IT, ALSO, IF HE HATES, HATES HATES, AND HAS UGLY things to say re her, it does not say much for his character, as once they did share love, People change, and if they do not change "together" THAN THE WHOLE THING FALLS APART,
i remember when i was in my twenties, i was inlove with a man, who had 2 kids, and a beautiful wife, he was seperated, yet i was so insecure, i was jealous of everything, his past, the two beautiful children he made with her, and so on, i was more obsessed with his past, and his choices, everything, if he saw the kids too much, was the x going along, did he do her too many favors etc, he still had photos of him and her, and kids, I WANTED THAT TO BE ALL GONE, I WAS EMOTIONALLY immature, and secretly hysterical inside with fear of losing him, or never being offred what he had with her, and oh my goodness, i destroyed any chance of anything,,,
it has been about twenty years since then, and i am not finally grown up,,
(kinda),, BUT I LEARNED THAT , I HAD NO RIGHT TO OWN HIS FEELINGS, CONTROL HIS FEELINGS, OWN HIS PAST, OR CHOICES, IT WAS N ONE OF MY BUSINESS, AND I WAS JUST PLAIN UNSTABLE,IMMATURE, AND HAD NO CLUE ABOUT TRUE LOVE AND TRUST, AND INTIMACY,, AND THE WHOLE FAMILY MEANING, I WANT TO SAY TO YOU, THAT YESTERDAY IS GONE AND HIS YESTERDAYS ARE NOT YOURS, AND YOU CANT CHANGE THAT, WHAT YOU CAN DO, IS FOCUS ON TODAY,, AND WHAT YOU WANT, AND DO NOT CONCERN YOURSELF WITH HOW MUCH HE FEELS OR DOES NOT FEEL FOR HER, OR KIDS OR HIS FRIENDS OR FAMILY,
BE GRATEFUL, IF HE IS A GOOD GUY, THAT HE SEES YOU AS A GOOD WOMAN, THINK ABOUT HOW YOU ARE TOGETHER, AND DO NOT PRESSURE, OR CORNER HIM ABOUT YESTERDAYS, AS IT WILL MAKE HIM EITHER 'NEED TO LIE TO YOU," to KEEP YOU HAPPY, OR HE WILL BE UNCOMFORTABLE, AND INSTEAD OF HAVING QUALITY TIME TOGETHER, YOU WILL BOTH BE SOMEWHERE ELSE EMOTIONALLY, ..AND THAT IS A WASTE, OF TIME, AND GOOD LOVE,
I REALLY MEAN THIS , HOW A MAN FEELS ABOUT HIS M OTHER, HIS X, WOMEN IN GENERAL, IS IMPORTAND, AND YOU MUST PAY ATTENTION, AND IF HE SPEAKS KINDLY, WITH RESPECT, ETC THAT IS WHAT YOU HAVE TO L OOK FORWARD TO,
IF HE HATES MOST OF HIS PAST FEMALES, FAMILY TO WIVES TO X WHATEVERS, HE WILL CARRY THAT HATE, AND GUESS WHERE IT WILL GO NEXT?
GOOD LUCK,
2006-07-12 06:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my case, it's not true the reason being is that i had a child and the man left me when i five months along. so you see most guys don't have feelings for the mother of his child.
2006-07-12 06:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by Miki M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a divorced dad and I can honestly say that I will always care for my kids but not for their mothers as they have done nothing but cause me trouble.
2006-07-12 06:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my partner has a son to another girl. they were together a long time. he does still care for her - it a natural thing. he doesnt just hate her because they are no longer together. they still talk and get on fine.
i am fine about this - i know he loves me and he wants to be with me. i think there is always going to be a bond between them.
hope this helps
2006-07-12 06:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by jil_bo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will always have respect for my sons mom for the sake of my son. i dont talk bad about her in front of my son because i know how i would feel if i heard someone talk jpoorly about my own mother. however, if it werent for our child, i would have nothing to do with her. i dont have feelings for her in any sort of way nor do i even like the kind of person she is.
2006-07-12 06:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by spyderman1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL to Troys comment!!!
I think they appreciate the fact that this woman gave them a child..but that doesnt mean they have feelings for her anymore.
2006-07-12 11:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have a feeling about yr child father or mother always as they are the one that give you the chance to be a mother or father.
2006-07-12 06:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how the split up. My ex-husband is civil with me as long as his wife is not around. Once she is within 100 feet of us, he's a complete jerk.
However, he's never tried me since he met her. If he still has feelings for me he hides them well.
2006-07-12 06:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lynda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the mother of his child...it may not be passion but there will be some kind of feeling
2006-07-12 08:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋