my and my partner want to get married. we just wanted to go away and do it by ourselves and not make a big deal out of it. just the two of us a couple of witnesses and a registary office.
i let my mum know what we were thinking. since then my brother has spoke to me and said that my mum was really upset that i was considering getting married and not inviting her or anyone else.
we wanted to just go away and do it one day - dont know when or where. we dont want to sit down and have to plan things or spend a fortune. we wanted to do what we wanted and then come back and have a big party - inviting everyone to help us celebrate!
i feel horrible now that i have upset my mum and we have decided not to get married as we dont want the hassle of who to invite, where to have it and when. it would just snowball into this huge wedding - something me and my partner dont want!
we have been together a long time and have kids.
what should we do?????????
2006-07-11 23:04:51 · 6 answers · asked by jil_bo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
p.s it was never going to be a secret wedding...we just didnt want a huge fuss made! we would go get married and all our loved ones would be waitin to celebrate with us.........!
2006-07-11 23:30:33 · update #1
Since your mom already found it out why not make it an intimate wedding not a secret marriage? With just your families...You see..its not that I disagree with you but Marriage happens once in a lifetime and it is the most precious moment for both of you and you have none from your family ( who happens to be the people you have been with all your life ) especially your mom who brought you in this world. think about it. God bless!
2006-07-11 23:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by justurangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why not go along with the plan that you have but include your mom in to it. let her be your witness... and let her plan the party afterwords.. i had a huge wedding 300+ people and it was a year ago and i am still paying for it threw the 2 loans that i took out to have my dream day. i always wanted a big bang but. my brother had a small one just me and my mom and his wife's sister there but it was in a church.
Did you think about maybe ur mom wants to see you get married in a church in a dress? Look around find a minister that will marry you 2 without the whole big bang.. and have ur mom there to be a witness just get a nice dress and a flower for your mom that takes very little planning.
I would not cancel getting married just because your mom is not happy.. talk to her and tell her how you feel. And maybe she will come around and love the idea of her being able to be there for you.
2006-07-12 06:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what the two of you want. My husband and I got married in gatlinburg Tennessee in our cabin with the mountains behind us. It was great! We didn't have all the worries and stresses of putting a wedding together. Yes my family was upset but we promised them a reception for everyone to come to later. I'd do the same thing over if I had to. It was special and it was just us! Everyone will get over it. They won't be upset forever and they won't love you any less for getting married just the two of you.
2006-07-12 08:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Stacey R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the real answer to this question lies inside of both you and your partner as to wether or not you would like to cause heartache and pain for loved ones or if you can't wait to be married then just go ahead and do it you can always renew your vows at a later date.
2006-07-12 06:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what u two want, sorry to say so but who cares what ur family wants, sure, they love u and want to be there for u but a marriage is between two ppl not all the family, if they truly love u they will support u in whatever u choose to do
2006-07-12 06:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by breni03_bsb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its YOUR wedding...you will never be able to please everyone...please yourselves they will get over it
2006-07-12 08:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋