every time i told her that i love u and she says that sexual intercourse is not love. when i force her to do this she says i hate u. i dont know what is the problem with her. kindly help me
2006-07-11 23:02:20 · 26 answers · asked by mnapak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You both need see marriage counsler...
2006-07-11 23:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When one person in the marriage has issues, the marriage has issues. Your relationship appears to be in trouble. A breakdown in communication is often the start of these issues. You need to talk, not accuse. A marriage counselor is a good idea, but don't be afraid to shop a bit cause you don't want to get a bad one....they can make matters worse.
And one last bit of advice, if you do not respect her as a person, you will kill any love she has for you. You cannot 'force' anything, and especially sex. If you do, she will build such anger and resentment that you could find yourself alone very soon.
Good Luck
2006-07-11 23:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Arlene06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats quite an unfortunate situation yet not unredeemable. Ifwe have to really level with each other,there are more to this than you are telling. To save us from bad judgement, i'd limit myself to some remedies.
Seek the intervention of alocal Imam [if u r a believer] or the marriage counsellor who is trust worthy and discreet.
Second,perhaps you should sit together and try and locate what is really going on.
Thirdly, she may not have the capacity tocope with your biological strenght.I'd advice you take a second wife to compliment the difference- Islam permits that and it works with wisdom and biological make of man by God
Above all, you hold the ace to the problem- as the man and head
2006-07-11 23:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by mikail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, um...you force her to 'make love'. Clearly you just want her to get pregnant so she can't divorce you. Get a life dude, give her some respect - men like you are just gross & slimey.
It sounds like an arranged marriage?? Why don't you leave the physical side of things for a while and concentrate on getting to know her. Then she might feel more loved and more like making love.
2006-07-13 02:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Bridezilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh, right, so its another one of those 'man' things!! U want sex, so she MUST want it to!! Only thing is, she has now discovered that you arent as good as she thought u were to start with so the obvious answer is to chuck a few 'i love u'...surely the wifes bound to fall on her back and beg you 4 it....sorry mate, it doesnt work like that in reality-perhaps if you show her a bit of respect and love, try getting that spark back into the relationship, maybe she might fancy a quickie with you but till then...ur hand will have to do!!!!
2006-07-16 22:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is saying that she hates you and is behaving in a way that is signalling she no longer wants a sexual relationship with you i would try and address these things first before trying to get your rocks off.
It seems you may have allot of talking to do...
2006-07-11 23:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understood ur situation. there must be some reasons behind. Maybe she doesn't trust u for the man u are? she can be suspecting that u have had some affairs with girls outside.
U should fix a good chance and talk to her privately. Pls try to listen to her and give her more time to express her problems. This will be sorted out.
2006-07-11 23:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have Sexual Issues - these are symptoms of Relationship Issues and Serious ones.
See a Relationship councillor immediately before you start abusing and hitting each other.
2006-07-11 23:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by moikel@btinternet.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the things would be different if you exchange the expression "sexual intercourse" to "making love" and if you really show her that you care about her by kissing her and embracing her more oftenly without showing her signs that you inevitably need to have sex afterwards. Maybe if you showed her that life isn't only in "having sex" but also in other important things.
2006-07-12 06:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what her idea of love is. And if you force her, you're a scumbag and a rapist and should be sent to prison.
By the way Vicky, read the rules as children on here should be supervised.
2006-07-11 23:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by fishy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur wife needs a matured married woman to talk sense to her head!!!! love and sex.......in marriage is the major factor to build up ur relationship.....don't force her........i know it can be frustratg but maybe she has been emotionally hurt before by men.....remove fear from her mind......tell her you can't live WITH HER without havg sex with her FINAL!!!
2006-07-11 23:19:41 · answer #11 · answered by simile b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋